there is not set order although sometimes it appears to fall in line. So, yes. Not to mention, you will probably cycle through a few of these a few times not just once.

If there was ever an "on" topic???

Can this be moved back? It would be pretty valuable...

This is my first post and I am grateful for finding this site! I am going through a break up for the 3rd time in 4 years. Different people, for different reasons. First was a marriage that lasted 11 years, it really did run its course and I was very unhappy, but I didnt want the divorce, she filed and I went along with it, it took a good year to get through most of the pain, I felt it was never going to end, even though I wanted out of it for a long time it was comfortable.
(Started dating 1 year after divorce) I had a 14 month relationship with a woman that ran its course and I was actually fine with breaking up with her since, I viewed her more as a rebound, we actually remain very good friends to this day. (No break in between break up but really had hardly any contact for 2 months) I met a woman I dated in High School and I was head over heels in love with her, it was a long distance deal and it last for about 4 months, very intense when we were together and I went and screwed it up by messing around with another friend from High School, I have to state that I am 44, so it was quite childish, I was heartbroken and the pain and guilt were tremendous. (5 months in between) I needed to grow up a bit and then I met a wonderful woman that I really enjoyed spending time with, found her very interesting, she is beautiful inside and out, we hit it off from the beginning, she lived an hour away from me so we only got to see each other every other weekend since I have a daughter and she has 2 young boys. But after about 9 months she broke it off with me, she did it very lovingly and I respect her for doing it, but having to go through all this for the 3rd time in 4 years is killing me, I havent jumped from relationship to relationship quickly, it sounds like I have but I have let myself feel the pain.
I am sick of the stages of this pain, I am in love with the woman that broke it off with me, she said it just didnt feel right to her and I have to say at times it didnt feel right to me, but that has always been the case with me, there is always times it doesnt feel right. I am worried that I will never find that special someone; I know this is a stage, but I do not like this loneliness it is killing me inside. I have remained friends with my ex and the women I have dated, this last one has been the hardest for whatever reason, maybe since it is fresh, but it has been over 4 months and I want to move on. Anyway that is where I am at and I am sick of feeling this way, I dont want to experience this kind of grief for a long time!

Very helpful

I am on the emotional rollercoaster... so hard to ride it out but I know after the ride is over, I will be ok. Keep telling myself to BREATHE!

I'm at the point where everything is at a stand still. There is no hope of reconciling, and my life is in pieces. I'm trying to make sense of everything, and an emotional yoyo.