Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Today was STBX's weekly phone call to the kids. He spoke to our older middle son about one of the current Webkinz on the market. He proposed to our son that if he behaved for a week, that he would buy him this current Webkinz. STBX did have to speak with me about the deal first though. @@. Well, I spoke to STBX only about this and he said to me, "I didn't want to undermine you by proposing that deal with him."
Before I continue I want to mention that my middle son has anxiety problems. He is sensitive and tends to get overstimulated very easily. We have a counselor and psychiatrist helping me and him work through this. I will go on now...
Anyway, I was discussing this with STBX and how this was up to him and I would support him on it,. Then our son came in upset about something and I was talking with him quietly. I said something to STBX about our son's issues and STBX said, "I remember."(chuckling) I said to him, "I know you remember but I have to deal with this every day." Then he said, "I am sorry." still chuckling though.
HE IS NOT SORRY!! He wants to be the good uncle that pops in occasionally. The fun guy!! And not wanting to undermine me? What the fuck?!!! Where the hell was he not wanting to undermine me when we together raising the kids?!!! He is such a son of a bitch!! Acting like the nice guy. The good guy. "Look at me. I couldn't have ruined our family. I can smile and act like I love them. My wife asked for this. She is the one who left with the kids. My passive aggressive, neglectful and adultery behavior couldn't have been the reason she left me?!! What did I do? I was the fun guy. I cared!!"
GODDAMMIT!!
BTW, this is the man who sat me down on March 3 two years ago and, in all seriousness, suggested that we send one of our middle sons to my parents and the other middle son to his parents to be raised by them. This was his solution to them being kids and having issues, and their issues causing stress to him and our marriage. As he said, "It isn't like we won't visit them " It seems as though everyone to him is disposable.
--Sara
Before I continue I want to mention that my middle son has anxiety problems. He is sensitive and tends to get overstimulated very easily. We have a counselor and psychiatrist helping me and him work through this. I will go on now...
Anyway, I was discussing this with STBX and how this was up to him and I would support him on it,. Then our son came in upset about something and I was talking with him quietly. I said something to STBX about our son's issues and STBX said, "I remember."(chuckling) I said to him, "I know you remember but I have to deal with this every day." Then he said, "I am sorry." still chuckling though.
HE IS NOT SORRY!! He wants to be the good uncle that pops in occasionally. The fun guy!! And not wanting to undermine me? What the fuck?!!! Where the hell was he not wanting to undermine me when we together raising the kids?!!! He is such a son of a bitch!! Acting like the nice guy. The good guy. "Look at me. I couldn't have ruined our family. I can smile and act like I love them. My wife asked for this. She is the one who left with the kids. My passive aggressive, neglectful and adultery behavior couldn't have been the reason she left me?!! What did I do? I was the fun guy. I cared!!"
GODDAMMIT!!
BTW, this is the man who sat me down on March 3 two years ago and, in all seriousness, suggested that we send one of our middle sons to my parents and the other middle son to his parents to be raised by them. This was his solution to them being kids and having issues, and their issues causing stress to him and our marriage. As he said, "It isn't like we won't visit them " It seems as though everyone to him is disposable.
--Sara
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I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????
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A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
((((SARA)))))
--Sara
Where do they get them from? It's an alien invasion or something!
What can I say? These narcissistic types will always blame someone else.
I'm so sorry he's upset you.
Lynne
I went through this for the first 4 months... My wife played the same card...
she put on a great show until she just couldn't be bothered to anymore... the weekend her daughter had a fever of 103 and was in the hospital while she was out partying... and then had the pictures put on facebook to prove it...
Everyone on our facebook lists (our lists are only a little bit different) saw and commented to me or to my parents about how wierd it was.... she showed her ass and is now in a place where even her own parents can't pretend anymore... they still support her, as any good parent would do, but they nolonger try to sell her up and explain away her behaviour... they're not actively trying to keep her on task with her visitation and once they find out that she's tried to scive out of paying child support, i suspect that they'll intervene there as well...
So... i guess what i'm saying is... just give it time... eventually he will show his ass adn everyone, including the children, will recognize him for what he is.