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Sooooo Confused

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My husband and I are still living in the same house (for how long I am not sure) but he has not been home in days. I am feeling so confused. I want to gripe at him for not spending enough time at home but we are separating so how ridiculous is that? I miss him and he says last time I texted him that he misses me yet its like he isnt even living here anymore. He stayed at a friends house last night. I told him to stay there because he had been drinking and I didnt want him to drive like that. I really wanted him home but I worry about him. I feel like I should be letting him go and yet I just want to climb him like a three toed sloth and hang on by digging my claws in.

ARRRRGGGGG! This suck so bad. My brain knows where he was but that nagging little worrywart inside me say he is just starting a life with someone else and thats why he is not home. I am 98% sure that he really was where he said he was. Its that 2% that drives me crazy despite the fact that he is leaving me so why should it matter. I am scared, sad, angry, suspicious, jealous and just plain miserable.
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I recognize your feelings as I've been there myself.

As soon as he moves out you can slowly rebuild your own life. It will be very difficult, especially the first six months.

Having him in the house is not good for either one of you.

Good luck to you.
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Heck, it's been many months and I stii am suspcious, angry, sad, scared, miserable and jealous. I admit it. BUT, it gets easier. The fact that ya'll are still living together may not be helping how you feel either.
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He needs to move out. Unless it's for finacial reasons. Then that is a tough one. I know I couldn't do it.
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If you are separating then you have no "rights" to know his whereabouts... I know it sucks, but that's how it is. Now if it becomes a habit, then it's time for him to pack his stuff and get to gettin" if he fires back I have no where to go, tell him to go where ever it is he's been going and then tell him to go to hell in the process. Been there girl...God have I been there. I am not a man basher....I know there are some really good men out there...But those of us here, have some humdingers we are trying to let go of.......mine was at a friends too...he just didn't tell me who that friend really was...I pray that's not the case. The point of all this is simply watch your back, and don't get caught off guard, no matter what the situation may be. Trust me, I know....
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We are staying together for financial reasons but i also hope that maybe we can work things out. I know i have no reason to wonder where he is if we are separating. I just cant help the feelings. I have spent 12 years as the concerned wife. Its hard to let that of that in less than a week.
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the best thing is for one of you to move out. it worked for me and my stbx
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