Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hi Everyone,
I joined this group because I met through a mutual friend this guy online. We chatted a bit and I didn't realize but really connected with him mentally. He has a wicked sense of humor so I kept up with him online because he made me laugh and I was seriously depressed and having a really rough year. At the end of the year I got to meet him in person and I fell head over heels for him. We only spent one night together but were constantly texting. He had to leave the state for business purposes and it just killed me. I've never connected with anyone like this before and didn't know what to do. We were texting back and forth for a few days after he left but then he responded less and less. I should have stopped texting him but I was freaking out and feeling insecure...I told him this to some extent. Well six days later he blocked me on a social networking site and posted that I was (his stuff is public so I had a friend check for me) crazy, insane, etc...the next day his dad passed away. I feel like I was out of control and pushed him away. I have issues in this area and it has sabotaged other relationships before. I thought I had grown out of but in actuality I wasn't really into any of these other guys. I'm intense, passionate, and a hopeless romantic. This guy was a gentlemen. He was so sweet and loving. He kept telling me he liked me in a shy goofy way. I tried to tell him I had this problem and hadn't had a BF in xxx years and he said that he would be my BF. I also told him I had a fear of abandonment and he said he wouldn't abandon me..:( I know I probably freaked him out quite a bit but I'm so hurt. I wasn't able to control myself.
I joined this group because I met through a mutual friend this guy online. We chatted a bit and I didn't realize but really connected with him mentally. He has a wicked sense of humor so I kept up with him online because he made me laugh and I was seriously depressed and having a really rough year. At the end of the year I got to meet him in person and I fell head over heels for him. We only spent one night together but were constantly texting. He had to leave the state for business purposes and it just killed me. I've never connected with anyone like this before and didn't know what to do. We were texting back and forth for a few days after he left but then he responded less and less. I should have stopped texting him but I was freaking out and feeling insecure...I told him this to some extent. Well six days later he blocked me on a social networking site and posted that I was (his stuff is public so I had a friend check for me) crazy, insane, etc...the next day his dad passed away. I feel like I was out of control and pushed him away. I have issues in this area and it has sabotaged other relationships before. I thought I had grown out of but in actuality I wasn't really into any of these other guys. I'm intense, passionate, and a hopeless romantic. This guy was a gentlemen. He was so sweet and loving. He kept telling me he liked me in a shy goofy way. I tried to tell him I had this problem and hadn't had a BF in xxx years and he said that he would be my BF. I also told him I had a fear of abandonment and he said he wouldn't abandon me..:( I know I probably freaked him out quite a bit but I'm so hurt. I wasn't able to control myself.
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Some people have the problem opposite yours and instead of desperately needing someone and fearing loosing them they do not realize what they have. He should have been flattered that you were this into him and I hope he regrets what he did. Maybe you just scared him a little bit and he will come around. I hope the best for you.
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Thanks. I think I did scare him and I'm feeling some loss. Going to see what happens and i decided that I need to talk to a professional. I have emotional issues. It had to have played a serious role. Nothing else makes sense, except his dad dying..maybe? I don't know. It just really hurt me that he didn't talk to me about it and let me know how I was coming off.
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