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My stbx is pressureing me to spend the day with me and the kids. My entire support system is out of the country on vacation. I have no where to go. We have been spending way too much time together. He thinks that if he can show me that he can be nice that i will change my mind about the divorce. When i tell him that i still want the divorce he will get nasty. He is also making me feel bad because he moved to my hometown for me and he has no one here. Although when I think it through....the fact that he doesn't have any friends or family here didn't keep him from cheating or from finding new women since we seperated. Damn, he is such a manipulitve SOB!!!!!! I have to learn to be happy with myself agian.
meechb
Hey lady, he is emotionally abusing you. Don't let him manipulate your feelings about yourself. You are strong--just look in the mirror and tell yourself that. I hope you tell him you've made other plans and he is not included. If he starts to pressure you or other manipulative things, hang up. Take yourself and the kids to a movie. Do something away from your house and his hassling you. You can do this. I know you can.
deleted_user
OH my I would agree to it and then book myself a day at the spay and let him hang out with the kids and smile sweetly and say "thanks" I needed that...
deleted_user
If it's causing you this much angst, I wouldn't agree to his request. JUST SAY NO! If he wants the kids, that's different, but you have the right to choose whether or not you want to spend time with him. It sounds like you don't, or you're not ready to, so you should trust your instincts.
deleted_user
He found "support" when he wanted to, he can continue to find it even though it is your hometown. Don't make that YOUR problem or feel bad about it! I have also seen my stbx being the "Great Guy" since I filed. The angel and devil jump on opposite shoulders, one saying "you know you miss him" the other saying "are you kidding me? the guy who lied to you over and over and over, what are you thinking?" I think I might keep a Top Ten list in my purse that will snap me back to reality where he's concerned.
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