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After 8+ years of marriage, my stbx cheated on me with a guy that was engaged to one of her best friends and confidants. This was 6 months ago. In the ensuing time, she has been in "love" with at least 4 other men, and now is in "love" with another engaged man, who is engaged to, yup, another of her best friends. Yes, she is trying to actively destroy their engagement, going so far as to try and hook up the latest guys fiance with one of the guys she's slept with.
Most of these guys have been around 10 years younger than her (she's 35) and most have been internet hookups.
I just don't know who this woman is any more. Was she always like this and I never saw it? Did our marriage turn her into this person?
What really worries me most is what this all this is going to do and teach my 2 young daughters that live with her.
Most of these guys have been around 10 years younger than her (she's 35) and most have been internet hookups.
I just don't know who this woman is any more. Was she always like this and I never saw it? Did our marriage turn her into this person?
What really worries me most is what this all this is going to do and teach my 2 young daughters that live with her.
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I guess the only thing to say is that if these guys wanted to be with who they are already with, your ex wouldnt be able to get inbetween them.
There is no explanation for it except your ex is just feeling like she isnt attractive anymore, looking for someone to make her feel young, getting younger guys from online, (and these guys dont care, they are just looking for the hookup), and thinks this is her time to "have fun" and get over all the "supposed bullshit" she "had to go through with you.
When we all know what she is really turning in to. No offense mate.
My situation was somewhat similar (ex had 4 guys in 9 months), and it was her choices, not the marriage, that facilitated her cheating.
Of course, having a failing marriage was her line to snag them in, so they each tried to "save" her from it, even though she was doing more damage to it and was only making things worse.
Maybe some people can feel the impending collapse of the marriage and it acts like some kind of fuel to go out and do crazy things. I'm not sure.
All I do know is that I'm glad I don't have to put up with it anymore.
the best thing to do is minimize the impact to your children, which is going to be a MONUMENTAL task. When one partner begins making a pattern of bad choices they are usually oblivious to the situation and the damage done to loved ones. Selfish, selfish, selfish...but it is really all about her at this point, and no one else matters.
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To answer your question,, no you nor your marriage did this to her,,
anyway, don't worry about what she's doing with whom. as it turns out, your daughters need stability and normalcy. hopefully you can provide that for them at some point in time. Is there going to be shared custody? realize you cannot nor will not ever impact the ways of a spouse who walks out on a marriage. be thankful it ended now instead of 12 years or 15, etc. As far as the younger ppl. my ex does the same and all her "old" friends call her an idiot, thus the new found 20 somethings she's hanging onto. all issues you'll never solve and several professionals would have a challenge to do the same. best to you.
Not the life for me!
Why is she like this? Chances are she feels badly about herself and is looking to others to make her feel better. And maybe she likes "free" drinks too.
Not your fault. And you can't fix it. Hopefully all the kids know is that mom is going out.
She has issues, she is a predator and has addictive behaviour.. not learning from one situation and repeating the same behaviour.
This really is not the type of destructive person that you want raising your child.
How safe is the environment if SHE is bringing in new men all the time?.
I have 3 young daughters and there is no way that any strange man is going to be allowed in my home, in my life on a revolving door basis.
She is putting your child at risk, plain and simple.
Get documentation and get moving on this now. Protect your daughter please.
Let the STBEx deal with her own life.
First off - there is NOTHING someone can do to TURN someone into something. You are not responsible for HER actions - nor are you responsible for her irresponsible behavior. Perhaps she has low self esteem issues. She enjoys the challenge of luring someone else's man away because if she is able to do this....she has won some type of prize?
I too would be concerned about the example it sets for your daughters. I am in the same boat - a DOOR-KNOB baby daddy (everybody's had their turn)
Pray for your girls. Set a GOOD example for what healthy ADULT relationships are about.
Your STBX will not find any TRUE happiness until she grows up. There will be consequences for her - maybe not until FAR down the road - but trust me - it will come.