does she know you know?

nevermind, after seeing the "stbx" in the first sentence, I forgot as I read your are not together. So it doenst matter if she knows you know. Sorry.

I guess the only thing to say is that if these guys wanted to be with who they are already with, your ex wouldnt be able to get inbetween them.

There is no explanation for it except your ex is just feeling like she isnt attractive anymore, looking for someone to make her feel young, getting younger guys from online, (and these guys dont care, they are just looking for the hookup), and thinks this is her time to "have fun" and get over all the "supposed bullshit" she "had to go through with you.

When we all know what she is really turning in to. No offense mate.

I don't think marriages do these things to people.

My situation was somewhat similar (ex had 4 guys in 9 months), and it was her choices, not the marriage, that facilitated her cheating.

Of course, having a failing marriage was her line to snag them in, so they each tried to "save" her from it, even though she was doing more damage to it and was only making things worse.

Maybe some people can feel the impending collapse of the marriage and it acts like some kind of fuel to go out and do crazy things. I'm not sure.

All I do know is that I'm glad I don't have to put up with it anymore.

Well, Coolhand it seems me, you and Aborden are three peas in a pod.

the best thing to do is minimize the impact to your children, which is going to be a MONUMENTAL task. When one partner begins making a pattern of bad choices they are usually oblivious to the situation and the damage done to loved ones. Selfish, selfish, selfish...but it is really all about her at this point, and no one else matters.

PM me if you need stronger feedback...

It's not your fault that she turned into this woman. But, talk to your daughters--especially as they grow. You can teach them right from wrong, and strength. Which means you need to work on bringing yourself strength, and peace.

Who has your daughters? Can you prove she is doing this to get full custody? The judge would really frown upon her permiscious ways expecially where children are concerned. You need to be able to teach these children morals and doesn't seem that she has many!
To answer your question,, no you nor your marriage did this to her,,

ok, been in a similar situation but she's in love with her latest, whom came in the picture causing me to file. I bet she told him also when they met that we were having problems as she did to so many others. no problems, just her desire to sabatoge a good marriage.
anyway, don't worry about what she's doing with whom. as it turns out, your daughters need stability and normalcy. hopefully you can provide that for them at some point in time. Is there going to be shared custody? realize you cannot nor will not ever impact the ways of a spouse who walks out on a marriage. be thankful it ended now instead of 12 years or 15, etc. As far as the younger ppl. my ex does the same and all her "old" friends call her an idiot, thus the new found 20 somethings she's hanging onto. all issues you'll never solve and several professionals would have a challenge to do the same. best to you.

No offense intended but is there a slut switch that gets turned on. What the hell they seem to go from being monogomus to chasing any thing with something swinging between its legs. Is this some kind of female midlife crisis or a cry for help. I don't get how women especially mothers of small children can just seem to go off on a different tangent. I feel for all four of the guys here who have had this happen to them, in not only a terrible betrayal but it has to be embarassing to the tenth degree because they are not even discreet about it.

wick: i'm # 5....the profile continues

My stbx is bagging all the guys she works with. She is the senior manager and that doesn't stop her. Bet she has a great rep around the office. She's been through several that "just didn't work out".

And Mike 40 makes 6!

I don't think anyone is going to be able to explain away such drastic changes in behavior. Some people do believe that women also experience a type of middle age crisis, usually brought on by the beginnings of menopause. There has been research on the subject but the situations you are talking about are so drastic, I don't think that can account for the whole thing. However, you or your marriage are not to blame for her actions. People make their own choices and in the end, we are all responsible for our own decisions. Pure and simple, she chooses to behave the way she is and nobody is to blame for it. As for your daughters, your stbx is not their only role model. They have you and you have the power to make a good impact on their lives. Children are more perceptive than given credit for and nine times out of ten, they will model themselves more after the parent who provides the most stability (regardless of where they primarily live).

Hopefully the kids haven't even got to meet any of these guys. Well the world being what it is. Any woman who just wants sex can find it almost any night of the week in almost any bar around. More men sleep around, but do the math, that mean the women that do sleep around get to have more partners. An easy way to find men who want you and will make you feel good for the night.

Not the life for me!

Why is she like this? Chances are she feels badly about herself and is looking to others to make her feel better. And maybe she likes "free" drinks too.

Not your fault. And you can't fix it. Hopefully all the kids know is that mom is going out.

On the surface.. well it looks like this woman needs serious counselling.
She has issues, she is a predator and has addictive behaviour.. not learning from one situation and repeating the same behaviour.

This really is not the type of destructive person that you want raising your child.

How safe is the environment if SHE is bringing in new men all the time?.
I have 3 young daughters and there is no way that any strange man is going to be allowed in my home, in my life on a revolving door basis.

She is putting your child at risk, plain and simple.

Get documentation and get moving on this now. Protect your daughter please.

Let the STBEx deal with her own life.

Steve - your question "DID OUR MARRIAGE TURN HER INTO THIS PERSON?" makes me want to give you a great BIG HUG!

First off - there is NOTHING someone can do to TURN someone into something. You are not responsible for HER actions - nor are you responsible for her irresponsible behavior. Perhaps she has low self esteem issues. She enjoys the challenge of luring someone else's man away because if she is able to do this....she has won some type of prize?

I too would be concerned about the example it sets for your daughters. I am in the same boat - a DOOR-KNOB baby daddy (everybody's had their turn)

Pray for your girls. Set a GOOD example for what healthy ADULT relationships are about.

Your STBX will not find any TRUE happiness until she grows up. There will be consequences for her - maybe not until FAR down the road - but trust me - it will come.