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So why did I cry myself to sleep???

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After more than a year, X finally put his 'John Henry' on the separation papers.

I should be glad, now he has 6 months to settle the rest of the assets into my name.

So then why did I cry myself to sleep? We have been living 'separate and apart' for more than a year, and as he said "its only a piece of paper".
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because it is the beginning of the end-you got use to living apart now you have to get use to it being legal-hugs and prayers go out to you
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Because it is official now. Somehow when you get that piece of paper with the signatures on it, it makes it more real. The truth of what is happening to you somehow is validated by that piece of paper. That was the only answer I could come up with when I saw it.
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I'm really sorry about this. There are markers that give some 'reality' to this horrible process (signing the papers, date divorce is final, etc). They remind us that it's real and regardless of how used to this we are, it's always painful.

I dread the day I have to sign the papers. Hang in there. I will get better again. N.
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Only a piece of paper. Sort of like that marriage certificate, huh...

I hope that today is better for you.
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Tami - exactly right! One little piece of paper voids another one!

You cried becuz you are human and have feelings. You are not a cold emotionless person.
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devinr, what are you gonna do when he signs the divorce papers? Eventually, you'll go about your merry way and you'll cry again when the divorce papers come. It's the same as asking why did you cry at your wedding? I've been separated almost 2 years (roughly) and I cry too. I just sent the divorce papers out yesterday.
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I guess it's like the difference between knowing someone is going to die and their actually dying. I'll be on guard for this when it is my turn.

Sorry for your loss, Devon, and it is a loss.
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