Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

11,090 Members
99,716 Posts
0 Online
Relationships & Sexuality
/ Breakups & Divorce Support Group

So why did I cry myself to sleep???

deleted_user
deleted_user
After more than a year, X finally put his 'John Henry' on the separation papers.

I should be glad, now he has 6 months to settle the rest of the assets into my name.

So then why did I cry myself to sleep? We have been living 'separate and apart' for more than a year, and as he said "its only a piece of paper".
deleted_user
deleted_user
because it is the beginning of the end-you got use to living apart now you have to get use to it being legal-hugs and prayers go out to you
deleted_user
deleted_user
Because it is official now. Somehow when you get that piece of paper with the signatures on it, it makes it more real. The truth of what is happening to you somehow is validated by that piece of paper. That was the only answer I could come up with when I saw it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm really sorry about this. There are markers that give some 'reality' to this horrible process (signing the papers, date divorce is final, etc). They remind us that it's real and regardless of how used to this we are, it's always painful.

I dread the day I have to sign the papers. Hang in there. I will get better again. N.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Only a piece of paper. Sort of like that marriage certificate, huh...

I hope that today is better for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Tami - exactly right! One little piece of paper voids another one!

You cried becuz you are human and have feelings. You are not a cold emotionless person.
deleted_user
deleted_user
devinr, what are you gonna do when he signs the divorce papers? Eventually, you'll go about your merry way and you'll cry again when the divorce papers come. It's the same as asking why did you cry at your wedding? I've been separated almost 2 years (roughly) and I cry too. I just sent the divorce papers out yesterday.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I guess it's like the difference between knowing someone is going to die and their actually dying. I'll be on guard for this when it is my turn.

Sorry for your loss, Devon, and it is a loss.
Posts You May Be Interested In
  • GrassIsGreen

    acknowlodging

    Posted by: GrassIsGreen
    Last Reply: GrassIsGreen
    15
    I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
  • Barbel

    Curcumin / Lecithin

    Posted by: Barbel
    Last Reply: cgreens
    16
    Has anyone tried these supplements? Do they give MGers more quality of life by improving memory and overall well being?Thanks!Barbel