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So what do I do now?

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My husband and I oficially split up last week. I am going through that period of doubt and intense loneliness. We have been living apart for more than a year and a half, and I was waiting for him to move here as originally planned. He recently decided he doesn't want to move here any more. He says "things changed". He insists there is nobody else, that it is because of his company. He says he loves me, but doesn't have time to spend with me.
For all practical purposes I have been alone for a long time. I never go out. I work all day and then come home to my son. I have very few friends and little support, as I am new to the city. I used to be a fun person, who did a lot of things, but I didn't want to give him any cause to doubt me, so I faithfully stayed home every night.
Now what? Is it too soon to go out? Am I supposed to stay in and sulk? Where do I find people to go out with?
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Well, I am having part of my solution to that problem tonight, co-hosting a party. We met lots of new people wherever we went and invited them. If no one shows to the party, at least we had a good time meeting new people. We also invited people we'd like to know better. Even if it doesn't work out perfectly, it's good to keep busy. I threw a party several months ago, invited about 40 people and had 2 show up. But, I had a great time, just chatting, etc.
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You just invited people out of the blue? I don't think I could ever do that!
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It seems crazy at first. I'm actually really shy, but the more you do it, the easier it is. Just gotta bite the bullet.
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Hi, and I am so sorry to hear how sad you are , and that you are having to go through this. I am worried that if you make friends now, with you having intense loneliness, that you might make some decisions that you might live to regret, but I understand wanting to meet people, and make some connections with others. I volunteered at a local kitchen, and joined al- anon to help me meet others not interested in anything from me, but friendship. It is time to decide if you are ready to move forward with the paperwork, as it sounds as if he is saying he is done, and you need to protect yourself now. Get into counseling to help you grieve the loss of what was, and learn to rely on yourself .
Do you have family or friends close that can provides some emotional support, while you are trying to find your way? It is going to take some time to heal, as this is so new, and the pain is raw at this stage, You have really only had a week, knowing for certain that he is done, and will need time to heal. I am hoping that you have some friends or family that you can do things with. Stay with us here, and make friends that can help you through this. You have a son that is really going to need you to help him through this, and maybe meeting other single parents might be helpful at this time. Parents without partners is one organization that I can think of that may provide some help and resource advice for you. I wish you all the best as you start this new path,. We are with you, and will walk it with you until you heal:-) Healing hugs, Kimmee
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