
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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I'm moving on and I know I am doing the right thing. One of the problems is that my mind ocassionally betrays me and then the "right thing" doesn't feel right.
We were both not angels during the marriage and she admits to pushing me away and causing alot of the problems. I admit that I should have reacted better....
I just wonder why after all we have been through it's easier for her to be with new people when we have so much history. The new people in her life did'nt have to do much and they got better treatment then me (Hence the divorce papers I am filling out).
She claims to only want a seperation but still wants to talk to her new boyfriend while she contemplates whats going on with us (Hence the divorce papers I am filling out).
She admits that I have been supportive, loving, sweet, caring and all that other wonderfull stuff but doesn't know why she cant reciprocate the love I show her on a consistent basis (No I am not ugly and I am in the best shape of my life now, I'm a member at 2 gyms and we had great sex that turned into good sex that turned into when is this going to be over).
She works on the road now and it seems like our bond disintegrated
Why is it so easy to blow off love and commitment for something and someone alot less significant?
We were both not angels during the marriage and she admits to pushing me away and causing alot of the problems. I admit that I should have reacted better....
I just wonder why after all we have been through it's easier for her to be with new people when we have so much history. The new people in her life did'nt have to do much and they got better treatment then me (Hence the divorce papers I am filling out).
She claims to only want a seperation but still wants to talk to her new boyfriend while she contemplates whats going on with us (Hence the divorce papers I am filling out).
She admits that I have been supportive, loving, sweet, caring and all that other wonderfull stuff but doesn't know why she cant reciprocate the love I show her on a consistent basis (No I am not ugly and I am in the best shape of my life now, I'm a member at 2 gyms and we had great sex that turned into good sex that turned into when is this going to be over).
She works on the road now and it seems like our bond disintegrated
Why is it so easy to blow off love and commitment for something and someone alot less significant?
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