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So Angry I Could Cry

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Just been out with some friends of my H's for a drink. Bearing in mind my H left me three months ago for one of their female friends who I never met, one of them was going on about how he didnt see a woman he was shagging very much as she was married and another was telling me to not give a F**k about what my H thinks and do what I want the relationship is over and I shouldnt look back in anger.

Do they not feel my pain or even comprehend what an awful thing it is my H has done to me? Dont they have any respect or sense of morality at all? I am begining to totally get why my husband has turned into the monster he has, it has a lot to do with the company he keeps!!

I'm begining to think the only nice people left in the world are here on DS brokenhearted, it makes me want to cry
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I've seen this before: I'm doing something wrong, join me and do the same thing because then it'll make me feel not-so-bad about doing this thing.

Drugs, adultery, Pokeman movies.

It's sad.
deleted_user
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Just my own experience, Sweetie, but I would stay away from his friends, especially if they are welcoming that he cheated.

I have been making new friends, not just on DS, but at church, etc. My nephew just became a dad, and I have found a very good friend in his girlfriend's mother.

Do you have friends, you can just be yourself with, not worry that they may report back to him, or leaving you feeling like they are passing judgment on you?
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Drunks are drunks.
deleted_user
deleted_user
This is the time when you find out who is really your friend, with your best interests in heart, and who is but an acquintance. Your circle of friends will become smaller, BUT those that are there will support YOU.

Don't hang out with people that make you feel bad, and don't feel quilty for refusing invites. This is the time for you to heal, to think about YOU first and last and everytime in between. Do what is BEST for you and your piece of mind.

And yes, agree with you - DS people are wonderful. Big hugs!
deleted_user
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Hazi, don't cry. No they don't understand and never will until the live it themselves. I find that more all the time people look at infidelity as if you were talking about lossing a jacket. I think our world is in a bad place, there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with anything anymore. Nobody has morals, shame, or caring for anybody. It is everyman for himself and don't bother me with your problems. The trend seems to be As Long As Everyone Is Happy, what bullshit, depends on which end of the stick you are on. When the majority excepts the lack of morals in this world it leaves people like us holding the bag. You have to look far to find good people that standup for what is right, they have convictions and stand on them. Not may want to hear from people like us that hurt so bad you want to tear the heart out of your chest just to stop the aching. Makes me wander what our Lord thinks of all this and I wander how much longer he will watch the hurt of so many inocent children. Sorry, I am going on here, i guess because I live the same fustration you are, even from family. Sickening.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thanks guys, I am going to stay away from his group of friends because every time I am with them I feel a lesser person, they have no honesty or integrity and I guess they are not the sort of people I want in my life anyway
misstik333
misstik333
I agree, Hazi! His friends will more likely side with his lifestyle....

Noob! You said it... drunks are drunks.
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