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Slow healing process

deleted_user
deleted_user
It's been 3 months since H started alienating himself from me. I am starting to hate myself for being miserable. I am also afraid I will be in this rut forever. My cat passed away 3 years ago and to this day it still hurt to think about him. Now H is leaving, I don't know if I will ever recover from this.

It takes a minute to notice a person.
It takes an hour to make friend with a person.
It takes a day to fall in love with a person.
It takes forever to get over a person, if you really fell in love with him.
bigguy3
bigguy3
It doesn't take forever to get over a person ... I know. I loved my ex-wife more than anyone else other than my children. It took time to get over her (7 months in my case), but more importantly, it took love.

I don't like how my (now ex) wife treated me and I don't like how she has chosen to live her life ... but she is the mother of our children and I can still love her as their mother. But more importantly, I love myself and I like who I am now. Good luck.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Time is powerful. It truly is. You will heal, saddy.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I do not agree that it takes forever to get over someone. The way my ex husband treated me after he walked out on me makes it impossible to care for him whatsoever. I do think it does take more than a day to fall in love with someone. I think it takes many months to truly love someoene completely. I am not saying you can't have feelings but love grows with time. Once that love is developed it needs to be cultivated to last.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh Saddy I feel your pain. I too wonder if I will ever get over him. Everyone says we will and I hope that they are right. Sorry, can't give any afvice but know that i understand and you are not alone.
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