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Single...again

deleted_user
deleted_user
Well after 6 years of marriage and the past 5 months of separation; I am once again single. This is a place that I never dreamed I would be; divorce just didn't happen to anyone in my family...anyone!

Communication is key and my wife (oops, ex-wife) never really communicated especially about our marital problems. I still do not really know why we separated and divorced. Her response was she just didn't have the same feelings anymore. What did I do? What could I do to fix it? She never gave me an answer or the opportunity.

Now that the divorce is final; I still would like to know what happened because if I was at fault I do not want to fail again.

My question is "How do I get these answers? How do I move forward without my closure?"
deleted_user
deleted_user
For me it's therapy! I could have written that post, except that I'm not divorced yet.

But I had 3 long-term relationships and they all ended the same way (including my marriage). All saying how wonderful I was but that they didn't love me anymore. Although I wish I could get the answers from them, I can not ignore the fact that there is a trend here! And it is about me. I'm either doing something wrong that leads to this type of ending, or I suck and choosing my partners. Either way, I hope if find some answers by processing this with someone.
caruTH
caruTH
You sound alot like me. my ex never gave me a chance. i didn't really get the closure I needed. I may never. Whenever I ask for answers, he never wants to give them to me. He stopped communicating with me and especially now that we are divorced, there is nothing urging him to communicate with me. I just had to move on and have closure on my own. One way that was the best was to tell him that I never wanted a divorce, apologize for things that I did to him that hurt him, apologize for the wrong things I did, and tell him that I still love him and that I am open to getting back together if he ever wants to. But I am not waiting for him. I at least had closure for myself and did what I needed to do. If she doesn't even know what she wants or who she is, she may not really know what went wrong anyway, so you may not get answers either. Sometimes it hurts more and sets you back further when you feel like you need the answers. Maybe you will only get the answers from yourself.
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
yeah, new.. my friend thinks he's getting a 3rd divorce, he says he picked great girlfriends, just not great wives
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
I had to make my own closure. it felt like one of the chips ahoy cookies grooving in the car on the highway, all of a sudden I was pulled outta the car
CanadianRose
CanadianRose
Larry?.. Larry?..

LARRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WHAT YOU SMOKIN MAN?
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
want some?
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