I'd say your pretty much on target with that observation. Any other changes? Different music, new after shave?

Lack of sex with you? Sometimes more sex could be a sign to (feeling guilty) Whats his showering habits?

Speaking of after shave. I did find a receipt with purchase of 2 after shave lotions that never showed up at home 1.5 months ago.

Of course, he has denies all allegation so far.

My H tells me that he is no cheating but every time I see he get ready for work I wonder. He used to got to work pretty casual but now he is the head of his department he has been dressing more sharply. Is it work or someone else? I don't know but it kills me. He shaves, he worries about his grays, and he even bought anti aging cream for his face.

medic,

He's been acting cold and cruel for 2 months, so it's on the lacking side. So what's the rationale of lacking sex, if more sex is due to feeling guilty. Is it because of guilt as well or he feels he needs to be "loyal" to the OW? I know you were a cheater once, so just wondering if yo have insights.

From what I've read it's a sudden change in your sex life - either less or more. It can go either way when they are having an affair.

saddy my dear, if you need absolute proof, hire a PI. If he is as blatant as he seems to me, it shouldn't take very long. You already know in your heart, so start to prepare yourself. Make sure you have money hidden away, make sure you have copies of all financial records, deeds, titles, bank statements etc. He may bring home diseases, so a check up may be in order. When you are organized and secure, then decide what you want to do. Do you want to let him know you have proof, do you want to try counseling, do you just want a quick divorce? Good luck in whatever path you choose.

Becky,
The counselor told me to hire a PI too, and she asked what I would do if I find out.

As blatant as he is, yet he denies seeing the OW. He said he was unhappy, he wanted to be alone, he wanted "out". I suggested counseling and he rejected it. He is moving out next month.

One of my sisters gave me a mouse pad that I use at my computer. It was from a company called All State Investigations, Inc. and it list the 10 Signs of a Cheater.

Here they are:
Working a lot of OT?
Excessive use of the internet?
Unaccountable hours?
Hiding the cell/house phone bill?
Saying,"It's your imagination"?
Receiving hang up phone calls?
No longer interested in sex?
No longer wearing a wedding ring?
New sexual techniques?
Saying, "I need my space"?

Look at these signs and trust your gut instinct. I agree with BeckyW. Get your things in order and prepare yourself for the worst. Hire a PI or buy a GPS tracking system you can put on his car that will show you on a computer where he is spending his time.

I wish you the best of luck and hope I am wrong. This is a difficult situation to deal with but realize you have friends here at DS that will help you.

I knew something was up when the computer started to have passwords, as well as his cell phone and it always being on vibrate.
There was the "overtime" but no extra money, and then just weird little trinkets showing up at home.
He even used to bring our newborn son toys from her saying it was from him. She did not know about all the lies either until they moved in together just after I moved out.
I would say if you have the suspicion you are most probably right.
My ex h will most likely me on AMW or shot by some girl's brother for breaking their heart and emptying their bank account.

Listen to your little voice.. listen to your gut feeling... and you will know forsure.

The phone bill being hidden yup.. paid in full.. and gone.. HE was making lots of long distance calls. I got a bill in the mail one day for him.. opened it.. it was for a post office box down the street.

I went ballistic.. went hunting for letters.. anything.. he carried everything to work with him in his bag... he had bought lovely gifts for HER and charged it on his credit card.

check bills... check phonebills, credit card bills.. check what hours of the day and frequency of the calls too.

It makes me sick to have to tell you all this... bad memories. No trust.