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Ok guys! I have not been on here in a while and I feel like I need to get some input on what has been happening. I was in a relationship for over 3 years which ended last November. He contacted me for the first time in January and said things to me (which were good) that he never said before. He told me that he knows that I am perfect for him. We started talking but things were not progressing like I wanted them to so I walked away from him and told him that if he ever changed his mind he knew how to find me. He contacted me about a week later when he knew that I was going out of town. I contacted him when I returned to let him know that I was home safe and sound. We talked more. Then about a month later, things changed. We were not talking and I told him that I knew I lost him. I sent him an email to return some things that were at his house and it took him 3 weeks to do it. In the email I said that he would never hear from me again since I felt like that is what he wanted. As of today, he has not heard from me but he is showing up at places he knows that I will be at. He is emailing my best friend asking when her son plays ball so he can go watch him play. I still feel deep in my gut that we belong together but I think I am trying to talk myself into the fact that we are over. My friends mom was at the ball game and met him and she asked a couple of questions. His response was that we dated, we were not anymore and that we did not have that much in common. He also stated that he hoped that I would meet someone and move on. That is what I am trying to do but when he shows up all the time all he is doing is bringing everything to the surface. I don't let him see it, but my point is if you don't want to have something to do with someone why would you show up where you know they will probably be or why would you email her best friend. Any insight will be greatly appreciated!!!!!!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Okay here goes...

He's done with you and being itty bitty spiteful about it in a subtle way. He said he hopes you move on . I think you should.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't know but if things have to be that difficult to have a relationship, I would say move on. A lot of people don't want a person but also don't want that person to have anyone else, kwim?? He sounds like he is maybe sitting on the fence, but HEY! You need someone who ain't and wants to be with you, not creating more drama for you by a on again / off again thing. GL to you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thanks for the input. That is my thinking. I am trying to move on and meet new people. The problem I am having is that he is keeping in contact with my best friend that he does not know that well and never contacted before we split up except with joke emails. Now it is specific emails asking questions. I want him to leave me alone if he does not want me and to not show up where I am.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well tell him gently like this: SHIT OR GET OFF THE POT! Don't play his games or wait for him. But what you've said, it looks like he's made his decision already.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Tell your best friend to tell him that first and foremost she is YOUR friend and he needs to stop emailing her. Hey If I was your best friend I would tell him that :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
My friend is not that kind of person. She is prepared to say something to him if he askes her anything about me. That would get his goat. I am not sitting around waiting by no means. I have met several people just no one that I am interested in starting a relationship with. I am very picky when it comes to getting to know someone on a personal level. I do go out and have a good time. I do miss him at times but not all the time. I just don't want to play these games. I am the type of person that if I don't want to have anything to do with you then I will stay away from you. I think that is what is confusing to me. She is my friend and he knows that. He knows who she will choose if there was a choice. But on the other hand, he needs to get his own life since he is out of mine and give me the respect that I deserve because I give him that respect by leaving him alone
deleted_user
deleted_user
I still think your Best Freind should just stay out of it, How hard is it to ignore an E-mail. She doesn't have to confront him,just ignore him. That should really det his goat!Ha Ha!
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