You can still love and be guarded at the same time. It's called a prenuptial aggrement. Sorry you had to go and do this... {{{HUGS}}}

I'm so sorry. I know this has to hurt very much. Hugs, hugs, hugs.

Hey Sarge--you don't know how many times I've told people, "Never again without a pre-nup."
Words to live by.

Sorry to hear this. I had to give up the home I loved and picked and was a huge part of it being what it is. Gave up my 2 choc labs. Had no choice. But luckily, I didnt lose any money in it. It was just as much his as mine but yeah, I hated him moving his OW in the same weekend I moved out. Her kids in the bedroom my daughter helped painted herself. Her enjoying all the flower beds I took care of and maintained; all the while I have had to live in a shitty enviornment.
But like you, my thing is, soon I will be in my own place. No roomies, no bfs, no husband. Its all mine. And it cant be taken away except by my own mistakes. That is what I am telling my daughter. Its ours. No man will ever have that kind of power of me again. Guard up- yep. Distrust? tons.
Wish I could send you the biggest HUG!! Wish I knew words of comfort to send you. But all I can say is yep, you have perfect right to feel that way you do, although wish you didnt have to feel it. (((((HUGS))))))

Do you get any money for signing over the house? Shouldn't it be split 50/50 so if he keeps the house he pays you half of the value to have you sign it over? I guess I don't understand why you wouldn't get anything for it?

OMG...my heart bleeds for you. I wish there was something that I can say to help you through this pain. I cannot even imagine what you are going through. Now it is time for you to forget the past and move onto the next chapter of your life. Life sucks! I know. But you are strong and life will be better for you. Karma is a bitch and he will get his in the end. I wish I could give you a hug! Best wishes! Mel

I'm also about to sign my house, my home, OUR home away this week.... so I know how it sucks!! He moved out already, but this was our home that we had plans for... raised our kids in... and now, its not my home anymore.

I feel your pain...I'm so sorry.

HUGS

I'm so sorry. I am also losing my house. It feel so strange that a house we bought together may at sometime have another woman it in, sleeping in the bed I bought,sitting on the couch I bought...its just not a good feeling, I understand and I'm so sorry.

I'm there too. I put my retirement savings into the house exfiance and I were going to raise a family in. He used is as the place he took women to cheat on me with. He still has it as a residence. I still pay half the mortgage. It is in another province. argh.

I hope you got some equity out of it.

I am stupid, I know. I am guarded too.

Basically it is a court order that I sign over the house. The ex assumes all debt; as ordered. I get some money but not much at all; about $3,000. Due to the market; and the fact he is taking on 2 mortgages; I get nothing. I got tired of fighting; and gave in. Plus in the wonderful state I live in; most men get more out of these divorces when children are not involved; and the ex had a good lawyer; and my lawyer sucked sh**. My rights were completely ignored by the system.
So I have lost trust with everyone; and the legal system.