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Ok. So just when I thought that the stbx and I were starting to get along...crap starts up again. Here is a breakdown of what has happened.
He and his fiancee broke up. Not a big surprise to me, but none the less, yes, I feel bad for him. I know first hand what it feels like to lose the one you love, even though it was him that hurt me. A few weeks ago him and his parents had come for a visit. It was the first time I had seen him in over 5 months and the first time he saw our 6 week old son. Things believe it or not went great. We did get some talking in and I was able to get a little bit of closure that I was needing. Well ever since then, we have began talking more often. Of course, I never can count on a 'drama free' and I knew things were just going too well.
Well, he called me today to ask how to start paying child support. He also wanted to know how much he was in arrears. Well, I told him I would get my paperwork out and tell him both. BAD MISTAKE. He is close to $8000 behind on child support. This was not what he wanted to hear obviously. He quickly said he had to get off the phone because he was getting to upset to be able to talk with me. Then the text messages started, telling me that I had lied about how much money that he was making and that my lawyer screwed him over. We have had this same arguement serveral times. I continue to tell him that all I did was give my lawyer his pay stubs and then the lawyers uses the child support worksheet to determine the amount of support.
Ugh, I really hate this. He is making me feel like the bad guy again. I never asked for the divorce. I filed for the sole purpose of getting child support because he left us with nothing. Please, oh please, make all this go away.
He and his fiancee broke up. Not a big surprise to me, but none the less, yes, I feel bad for him. I know first hand what it feels like to lose the one you love, even though it was him that hurt me. A few weeks ago him and his parents had come for a visit. It was the first time I had seen him in over 5 months and the first time he saw our 6 week old son. Things believe it or not went great. We did get some talking in and I was able to get a little bit of closure that I was needing. Well ever since then, we have began talking more often. Of course, I never can count on a 'drama free' and I knew things were just going too well.
Well, he called me today to ask how to start paying child support. He also wanted to know how much he was in arrears. Well, I told him I would get my paperwork out and tell him both. BAD MISTAKE. He is close to $8000 behind on child support. This was not what he wanted to hear obviously. He quickly said he had to get off the phone because he was getting to upset to be able to talk with me. Then the text messages started, telling me that I had lied about how much money that he was making and that my lawyer screwed him over. We have had this same arguement serveral times. I continue to tell him that all I did was give my lawyer his pay stubs and then the lawyers uses the child support worksheet to determine the amount of support.
Ugh, I really hate this. He is making me feel like the bad guy again. I never asked for the divorce. I filed for the sole purpose of getting child support because he left us with nothing. Please, oh please, make all this go away.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Bad guy? Feel sorry for him? No, no, no.