This divorce was the hardest thing I ever went through-ever. You will get past it you just need help-We are here for you.

The first step today is to get a friend, or family member to come over and be with you. Eat dinner together, talk it out, relax tonight. Tomorrow try to get an appointment with your primary care doctor for a general check-up. Your first priority is your physical health. Second, you must make sure your electrolytes are balanced. Drink some gatorade and eat a banana for potassium. Then try soup.

This is tough. I still experience the loss of appetite. I was hitting the wine pretty heavily for a while to numb the pain. Not a good idea, it just eventually makes you more sick to your stomach.
I guess time is the only thing that will heal these wounds.

Thanks to all who replied. I really have no family and friends are far away. I am 45 and feel so damn lost, like what I lost was all! I KNOW it wasn't but....it feels that way.

I'm going thru something similar. I believe that seeking help and communicatng with someone who cares,( and I pray that the little I say will help)Please realize (and I do to) that life goes in cycles. There are fabulous great times and dark times. But please look for something good to come soon. I'm not good(or by any means a professional) so I hope that my words will help you.

It will get better, but it takes time! Hang in there, you will find lots of support and encouragement here!

Biggest problem is the drinking. Chip problems away one at a time if you can.

i feel for you..i too went to the bottle for a few weeks and found that it only made things worse for me. hang in there, it will get better!

I felt that way I couldn't eat and I was so scared and angry. It took some time. I eat better now. I'm finding me and feeling soo much better. A little time and perspective gave me the understanding that I'm out and away from some nasty emotional abuse. Now my energies when I have them can be focused on me. It does get better. Don't be afraid to ask for help, seek help, request medications or med changes. Take care of you. Cry when you have to. And Pray it has helped me a lot.

I have had a hard time also, but it has been almost 4 months and it IS getting better. I try to stay as busy as I can: make new friends, take a class, do ANYTHING new or different to take your mind off of it. Sitting around by yourself all the time will allow you to think about it too much.

Your heart hurts because of the emotional pain. My therapist uses EMDR to help me. I find it really works. See if your therapist can help with this. My heart feels better but not 100% yet. I have lost so much weight because I too cannot eat and my stomach is messed up. I have been dealing with our separation for 3 weeks. I am getting better little by little. We care.

I am sooo sorry that you are in so much pain. It's a very hard process to go through, but it will get better for you with time.

What you are going through is part of this horrible process, but it does get better. I had the same reaction for several months. It has been seven months and I am much better now. My best advice is to find people who can relate to you, perhaps a divorce group like Divorce Care. They have been very comforting to me. Don't isolate yourself. Force yourself to get out if you possibly can.

Post as much as you like. People here are great and understand all the emotions you are and will go thought.

I'm sorry. I do understand.

I am so sorry for you pain. My husband left me three months ago and I understand the heartache.
I know the appetite loss and tendency to drink. I have been drinking too much as well since he left me.
I am cutting back down now though as it is a destructive habit and will only creat more problems.
Stay strong. It hurts. You will get through this.
Let me know if I can help.

Its not easy....definitely be with friends and family. Don't be alone. I have been there...hurting so bad, not eating, wanting to die...the pain gets better, then it comes back, then it WILL get better. You CAN get thru this.