Please advise! Right after my husband and I separated I sought the advice of a reputable attorney. Because I am disabled due to Fibromyalgia and collect social security disability, she advised me to sell the house immediately, trade my car in right away, then have my husband co-sign for a condo (to make my mortgage payments much less), to purchase a car with lower monthly payments, then to get divorced. When I mentioned this to my husband, he thought it was a good idea. The idea was to make my payments affordable with my monthly social security, alimony, and child support. When my son found out that he might have to move, he got really upset, and my husband promised him that we could stay in the house until he graduates from high school (he's only a freshman), and he would continue to pay all the bills just like he did before we were separated. He also made a car deal for me without talking to me, and the car is in his name only. It is a nice car, but I know I couldn't afford it after the divorce. SO...here's what I need advice about - Should I stay in the house for my son's sake, take the car that's just in his name, and live for the next three years like (almost) nothing happened? Or should I sell the house, tell him I want a much less expensive car, and start the divorce? I don't really feel comfortable counting on him to do what he says for the next three years. It just doesn't feel right. If I don't move on I'm afraid that I'll feel like I do right now for three more years - and I really don't want that, but I also don't want to mess up my son's life any more than it already is. Anybody else have this problem? How did you handle it?
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