My stbx has been BLOWING money on bars, hotel stays, and cash withdrawals (probably for drugs). On Father's Day he told me that he'd been doing drugs the night before and I was concerned about him having the kids for the day. The next day I called my lawyers office to ask for him to be drug tested (and possibly suspend his visitation). I was doing this for 3 reasons: 1)To protect the children from harm because he's under the influence of drugs/alcohol on a regular basis 2)Hopefully he'll "hit bottom" and get help for his addictions, and 3)Hopefully, put a stop to his outrageous and irresponsible spending. Well, my lawyer FINALLY called this morning (he had been on vacation) and said the papers would be ready for me to sign this afternoon to file the drug testing motion. UGH! Now I'm worried that I'm going to be opening a big can of worms! He is going to be pissed and may go on the warpath. Not to mention, his job won't be pleased if they catch wind of this. Am I shooting myself in the foot here? Should I just let things lie and just refuse to let him see the kids if I think he's been doing drugs and just DEAL with the bills the best that I can? I'm really worried that I'll be getting myself into something that I won't be able to get out of or undo!
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