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I was wondering from as many of you as possible if I should send my ex Thanksgiving and Christmas cards? I signed the divorce papers back in July and I have only seen and talked with her once in October when I bumped into her at the mall. I still care about her parents and would like to say hi, but I don't want to come off as weird. I must admit I want to send her cards because I don't want her to forget about me. What should I do? What would you do?
Thanks for your help.
Thanks for your help.
deleted_user
do you really think its a good idea to hang on? I know how you feel---I have a feeling I'd want to send the card too but if she's moved on with life then perhaps its best not to. (its a tough call)
deleted_user
If the ink has been dry for awhile, WHY? Okay you still care, but is that going to help you heal and move on in your life? That is the question you need to aks yourself.
deleted_user
i know how your feeling, i have had the same thoughts. but, have decided to just leave things alone. have to keep moving forward.
deleted_user
I would have to say that it would be nice of you to send her parents a card, after all you didn't divorce them. As far as she is concerned why not? So you are not married it doesn't mean that you can't wish someone happy holidays, make it short, you don't have to put anything long and drawn out, just a simple card. As long as you understand that cards are not going to mend a relationship, it is just that a card.
deleted_user
No reason what so ever. That card is about you not about the season. let it go.
Thriver
Ok but how will you feel when she doesn't send you one or even acknowledge the card, which might happen? Are you expecting some outcome? If not, go ahead.
deleted_user
I know it's hard to let go, but let her be. Focus on healing yourself.
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