married for 23 yrs perfect marriage yes we had our ups and downs like everyone but on the whole it was great he doted on me as i did him , he started with depression lost his job got in debt risk of losing house ect and he started talking to this woman in a chatroom wasnt long before they were best buddies but i wasnt threatened my hubby has never strayed or looked at other women hes always been happy with what he had no need to look elsewhere hed say i have the best right here , anyway she comes onto him he took it as a joke at 1st but i said i didnt like it it said i was being silly ect anyway now shes offered him to go to greece can guantee him a job n stay at hers all in 6 months of chatting online , despite my best attempts ok some being not very nice calling her all sorts telling all his online mates what hes doing ect hes decided to go but for last 4/6 months hes been im going im not we can work it out , im definately going im 50/50 ect constantly building my hopes up to dash them again only saturday he said he was still 50/50 but still loves and cares for me and fancies me like mad he says its not me its him something inside him says hes got to do this , i think he feels hes let us all down losing his job no money and in debt and this is his way of escaping hes been thrown a lifeline and took it , he swears it isnt for her says he doesnt even care about her , i even have him saying this on recorder and saying he still loves me yet she thinks theres something between them he says he promises he wont sleep with anyone for at least 3 months but also says hes not going for an sexual relationship whatsoever i said but your hoping something happens between you two he says no im not im going for the new life new start i think i could be making a terrible mistake but if i dont try it il just think thats something else i never did that i was goingto do and end up hating everyone including me which he never wants to do , he says he will talk to me daily and nobody will ever stop him and if i need him for anything he ll be straight back , i need him now so why wont he stay? pride? ego?mid life crisis? hes 50 in december and feels hes done nothing with his life and i think this is his way of proving a point but im so hurt and heartbroken that i wants to do it alone she thinks our marriage was over before she came on scene do i put her straight and ring her ask her to stop this nonsense or do i let him go and how the hell do i begin to cope with this im left alone heartbroken hurt in debt and a house i cant afford i just dont want to go on i feel my life is over
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