We have been dating for almost 2 years now.

ok, you've been dating her for two years, have you been living with your spouse the whole time. I would say that you need to be on your own and need to figure things out, but if you've been dating her for two years then i would say that your pretty sure it's serious.

hmm. I think that it all depends on how much you trust your spouse, if you put your name on a new house though it could be part of the divorce, and if she uses it as you "cheating" on her then she could get more alimony for that. There really is alot to think about in this respect. Good luck.

I personally would hold off until the divorce is final. just my two cents there. or dollar fifty, i kind of wrote alot.

Hi, thanks for your reply. Thats exactly what I am worried about, if she can put that intothe divorce also.

Wow...How is your wife handling this? Does she KNOW any of this, or is it going to come as a horrible shock that will send her to her knees?

Worrying about whether to move in with your MARRIED LOVER or not really Isn't a Big Thing in this whole picture...you will be looking at other issues-Child Support, Alimony, Distribution of Assets...IF you can still get it up after your Wife gets through with your ass-you will be doing well...

I agree with Tami. You are definitely putting the cart before the horse's ass!

Many have been in THIS situation before! That's why this community is populated by so many VICTIMS of infidelity. Do you have the slightest clue what your actions and planned actions will do to your wife? Do you even care?

I could have my stbx contact you, and he could give you some pointers on how to move in with your new girlfriend before you're divorced from your wife!

Are you serious? Why have neither of you left your spouses yet? What makes you think that if you get this house with her, she wont leave YOU for someone else? what makes you special again? Two families are going to be ruined and you are worried about a house?? Neither of you have respect for people or their feelings, sounds like you two deserve eachother and NOTHING MORE! NASTY. Panadora's box is about to open along with all its pain (HELLO ASS YOUHAVE KIDS!!) and you're worried about a house....NOW THAT IS SAD

my two cents worth...just because the two of you were not happily married, there has to be some reason you are not separated/divorce yet. ...you do so, i believe it becomes marital property...so go for it. i hope you treat your wife well, she deserves it!!!!!

What are you teaching your children with these actions? Think about that! I don't think you are going to find much sympathy here. give us your wife's number, I think she would be much more welcome to the support we will give!

too late it has effected the outcome of your divorce.

Wait,

Get your stuff over with first.

Then if she still wants too then why not!

You say you have been dating this person for 2 years! WOW
How can you live with yourself. You are one selfish bastard. Dating? Did you mean fing each other and then your spouses? I have zero respect for people of your nature. Why don''t you put yourself in your wife's shoes you know the one that has been doing your dirty laundry, cleaning your house, taking care of your kids, picking up after your stupid ass. Do you really think your whore will do all this for you when you move in with her? She may for a little while but she is already wanting to leave her spouse. I think you, and your whore and all the other people like you should all rot in hell. I hope your wife takes you for everything she can. You and your whore will fail as soon as it comes out.

are you freakin kidding me. oh gee, i don't want my lies and cheating and betrayal to be an influence in my divorce settlement, ive been cheating for 2 years now, making a fool out of my wife the woman i promised to love until i died. and i don't want my kids to get one more dime than i have to give them. your an asshole. if you were that unhappy, why couldnt you just have been a man about it and tell your wife and leave, that would have been devastating enough, no now your going to rub in her face, i love someone else. you suck.

It always cracks me up when someone comes on and asks us how he can make life easier for himself when he is a cheater with children. i started to read this post and thought oh boy wrong community. way to go group. he deserves all of your comments and more.

What a wonderful world that we live in...with disposable wives and children.

If your wife doensn't know about this then please do the right thing and tell her.

Then..do whatever you want. Sounds like you will anyway.

I hope that your wife gets a good attorney that makes sure that you have to pay for half of the kids medical expences..including counseling. They will likely be needing that.

If you still need an ansewer to your question then..yes..many of us have been in this situation before. The other side of this situation. It's not a good place to be.