Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I am new to this group and want to thank everyone in advance for ant suggestions you may have.
My problem is that I am fighting with this decision that my husband of 10 years has walked out on our marriageand our 3 daughters. I have spoke to the OW and he assures me that I did nothing wrong. He has told me that he just doesn't trust himself and no wonder I don't trust him. He has moved out 3weeks ago, with the first week of November told me he was now in a relationship. I found out the day that my kids had their first sleepover. I have asked the OW to stay awy from my family and she still persisted that now they are together. He knows that if the OW comes any where near my girls he losses visitation and he knows I'm serious. I found out that she stopped by the day after the started dating late at night t drop off some cheesy pinting she did. I always find out and now I am left wondering this... If one of my daughters was 20 and sleeping with a married man and being someone mistress would I want to know? Yes, I would, I aspire for my girls to have more in life.
So, should I call her parents? She's 20 lives at home and raised in a strong Catholic family. Should I call or write them? My Ex has asked me to leave her family and friends out of this, but why are my family and friens all affected and he's the cheating bastard who chose to walk out on his family and still be able to hold his head up and I'm a mess!
My problem is that I am fighting with this decision that my husband of 10 years has walked out on our marriageand our 3 daughters. I have spoke to the OW and he assures me that I did nothing wrong. He has told me that he just doesn't trust himself and no wonder I don't trust him. He has moved out 3weeks ago, with the first week of November told me he was now in a relationship. I found out the day that my kids had their first sleepover. I have asked the OW to stay awy from my family and she still persisted that now they are together. He knows that if the OW comes any where near my girls he losses visitation and he knows I'm serious. I found out that she stopped by the day after the started dating late at night t drop off some cheesy pinting she did. I always find out and now I am left wondering this... If one of my daughters was 20 and sleeping with a married man and being someone mistress would I want to know? Yes, I would, I aspire for my girls to have more in life.
So, should I call her parents? She's 20 lives at home and raised in a strong Catholic family. Should I call or write them? My Ex has asked me to leave her family and friends out of this, but why are my family and friens all affected and he's the cheating bastard who chose to walk out on his family and still be able to hold his head up and I'm a mess!
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Unless you want to drive those two together and form a bond that they can unite behind!
but it is obvious you want to try to save the marriage so my advice to you is STOP making her and the infidelity the center of your problems. It is only a symptom of what was really wrong with your relationship with your husband.
How they walk around holding thier heads up high is completely beyond me.
Sorry, I don't believe affairs are about the marriage. They are about the narcissism of the cheater.
You told him you would cut off his visitation, so cut it off. If you proceed to divorce, have no opposite sex sleepovers put into your custody decree.