Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
My husband wants me to give him the control of all of the bills and just give me an allowance. I am meeting with my lawer tomorrow to discuss this. I know I can file for a seperation to make sure I get a set amount. he refuses to do a short sale on our home(It's been on the market for over 1 year) and I know the court can make him sell. He lives 2 and 1/2 hour away now and has never been on time with anything. i am worried about if he files up there and I have to travel to there to go to court, I know it will cost more that way. he says he will file down here where I live, but should I trust him? Should i just fole for a divorce so I can have the control over this situation, or what do you think?
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sounds like he is trying to control you, my advice is to turn the tables on him the courts will be on your side and it will be best for your children
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Ask your attorney. The attorney will know what to do to help you the most
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I know it sounds horrible but I feel like he has made all of the decisions up to this point, and I feel like I want to be in control of what direction this goes. he made the decision to end it, but sometimes I wonder if that is just hte anger talking or if it really makes sense....
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I agree with getting your attorney's advice. There might be some advantage to you in letting him file, like sympathy from the judge, for starters.
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I disagre with burt, sometimes the lawyer just wants your money. it happened to friend of mine
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if you know its over, file and the courts will make him pay up
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I paid a retainer of 3,500 and my lawyer actually said I should ask for more from H. He let me in on what I could get in case the STBX wanted to try to play dirty. It was worth it to me.
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Yes, you file. Don't let him control you. It was a step for me to take control over my life. My x never thought that I would file...and he began to spend excessively so BE CAREFUL with that.
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