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Should I even try to get him back?

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deleted_user
.... and how should I go about it? We were together 3 years. He broke up because he didn't want a commitment and I was talking about it too much (moving in with him), and I felt him pulling away. I was disappointed when he got me a generic valentine card. I know - stupid. When he walked out I asked if he stopped loving me and he said 'no'. He's all I think about and I want him back. I mailed him a card asking if we can start over -- no rules, no expectations. Because the truth is I don't really want marriage again either - after 2 divorces. I haven't heard from him, and it's bugging the shit outta me not knowing if he's thinking about me or if he's as miserable as I am. Should I call him? I even thought about texting his brother.
deleted_user
deleted_user
No. Is that how a person who loves you handles things? Is he going to bail every time you raise the issue of comittment? His leaving is the ulitmate statement about comittment. If he did not open a dialog after you sent the card, that also makes a statement. I think it might be time for you to move on as painful as it may be for you.

Desperacy is not pretty...leave it alone...give yourself a full 30 days to take care of you and only you. Painful as it will be, you may begin to see things differently.

If he contacts you, be prepared to have what you need in hand and don't settle for anything less...you asked for a comittment and he does not want that...that represents a major disconnect in the relationship.

If he doesn't contact you, you have gotten your answer and it is time to move forward and heal.

Sucks. Been there, done that. Sucks.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Don't do anything further to contact him......as horrible as it feels and as much as you miss him, it will push him away even more. Try and do nice things for yourself and make a list of all the loveable wonderful things about you whenever you want to reach for the phone and contact him.
deleted_user
deleted_user
you should let him go. He isn't treating you right
SearchingForSerenity
SearchingForSerenity
You deserve to have someone in your life who will communicate with you and show you the same love and consideration that you show them - he obviously is unwillingly and unable to do this - You cant find the right person by holding on to the wrong one ** HUGS **
deleted_user
deleted_user
better to just call him and not bug his brother. do it once and if he says no then you have to let him go and not bug him anymore.
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