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Should I divorce Him

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WoW! It has only been one year and a very hard one. He is really verbally and physically abusive. He never trust me. If I tell him I am going to walmart and then decide to go to target I must call him 1st. If i don't then I was lying about where I was going in the 1st place. When I am on the phone with a client he will walk in and say who are you talking to I will say baby one sec then he yells am I TALKING to my self. He does not work, We live in a great house with nice things and he just lays around doing nothing. He got in touble a few years back and went to jail I waited and when he came home I purchased us a new Caddy Escalde and he wont even help pay for that. He just seems to be using me I mean he sleeps on the couch almost every night even if we have sex after that he goes to the couch. I love him and I wish he would just be SWEET to me. WHat should I do......
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I'm so sorry that you are in such an unhappy situation. I know there are a number of people on this site that can totally relate to your circumstances. As for what should you do?...well, unfortunately that is something you must answer yourself. I see from your bio that you are in counceling. It is good that you are sorting thru your issues with a therapist. A good therapist will not tell you what to do. They help you to clearly see your options. I would suggest you continue with your therapist. Also surround yourself with a strong support system. Family, friends, organized support groups, etc. Good luck....I'll keep you in my prayers.
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I agree with seeing a therapist. Be honest with yourself and things will become clear. But I also need to ask you this question: what on earth do you love about this man? If he does nothing to make you happy, then how much does he love you? Why spend your precious love on a man who does not appreciate you, lift a finger for you, or want to lie in bed with you and tell you how beautiful you are? You deserve SO much MORE than this!
deleted_user
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Love in a marriage should be mutual. I have very little tolerance for people that treat their spouses the way you're being treated so I'm just going to keep my mouth shut for once.

Keep going to your counselor. If your spouse will go with you voluntarily that would be spectacular and may be reason to have some hope. Otherwise your best off going to sort through your own issues. Rest assured that this group of people will be more than happy to provide any support they possibly can. It's amazing what having a shoulder to cry on can do for you. You're not alone.

You're not far from me, I'm just 'up the street' in Colleyville. Feel free to write me a message should you need someone 'close to home' to talk to on the phone or text msg.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with what other members have told me, that you are the only one to make that decision. Some of what you say reminds me of me. You are working and providing and he is just along for the ride. It doesn't sound as you are being very fair to yourself.
Have you told him how you feel?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I only had to read your first sentence and I knew what the answer is. Verbal and physical abuse has no place in a relationship. This guy has MAJOR issues. Why question this? I think you know what you need to do, unless you are codependent and can't leave. In that case, you need therapy. Otherwise why put up with that. My thought is that you need to work on your self-esteem while getting the hell out of there before he hurts you. He seems to be using you for sex. How could you love a man like that.
deleted_user
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I agree with Cerridwen. Abuse has no place in a relationship. That you love him is obvious otherwise you would have never stayed. He has issues that have nothing to do with you. Unfortunately the situation will never change for him unless he makes the effort. I know its a hard decision, but you really, really do deserve to be happy and with someone who is going to respect you.
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