It sounds like you no longer trust your partner. So you don't really have a good relationship anyway. You might as well screw it up totally.

I was seeing someone that did the exact same things as your partner concerning the phone. I finally got my hands on his phone and found the same thing you did. I figured our relationship was not going well since I had so much doubt about his honesty so I called the number of the suspected OW. Actually, I called from his phone when he was sleeping. The OW answered and confirmed my suspicions. Needless to say we had a very interesting conversation. He was very rudely awaken by me after that call.

I hope your situation is not the same as mine. It was very hard to realize this person was so dishonest and disrespectful. In the long run, it was the best thing I ever did for myself.

Only you can decide if it is the right thing to do but I suspect you already have your doubts about your relationship. You just need the wake up call to realize it is time to move on.

if there's major dialog between your partner & another person, does it matter who it is? Answer is NO. It is someone else that your partner is talking to, so you have two choices to make since it sounds like you set up to have a monogamous relationship and not include other partners/see other ppl. Just decide first what your expectations from the relationship is, if it seems to be one way, then you yourself have to decide if dealing with infidelity is something you want to handle. Should your partner be talking to another, there's clearly issues that either they have themselves, or your relationship has. look deeper at it, and the other person has little or nothing to do with this and you'll get no further with knowing exactly who they are.

Find out any way that you can. Then be prepared. Your suspessions are probably right.

For a small price you can do a reverse phone check, through the cell phone co. But like I said be prepared. It dosnt sound good to me, I'm sorry

I would call, my stbx did the same thing with the phone and I called and the OW wouldn't talk to me. They are now living together.

Ok so my husband was leaving his cell in the truck or if he brought it into the house it was always on him. Well I have Cingular and I went online and noticed him texting with another number all the time. Back and forth. He was being really distant with me at the time as well. This was after he decided to seperate. He is still living with me though. Well I called the number and bingo she answered. I had a long talk with her explaining exactly who I was and went into detail with her. Needless to say she felt really stupid. I noticed she called him the next day and they were on the phone for 15 minutes and that was the last call or anything between them. So yes I stopped this one, but even if I didn't call her, there always will be another. If they are looking for that female interaction they will find it. So in the end I felt better venting to her, but remember they always don't know the whole story.

What the heck. Check it out. Problem is, she may lie also. Then what are you going to do. Hopefully, you will get truthfull answers.

Call. You have the right to know the truth. After that you will be better equipped to make a decision.

You already know the answer, as I did. When they are mysterious about the phone and such then you know. My husband had his girlfriend listed under "M" in his phone, when I questioned it he said it was a friend. I did call and she did answer, and I said who is this and she said nothing and hung up. She knew. When a partner wants to cheat they will do everything in their power to keep it going. They will delete calls, get another phone, hide the bill, hide the phone. If a person is legitimate they don't have to hide a phone or a bill, etc. So like I said you know. The only thing that you are going to gain is confirming your suspicions, the other is maybe saying, hi this number was on my HUSBAND'S cell phone and I am wondering who this is. Then she will know he is married, in case she didn't and maybe then you could ask her what is going on. In the beginning yes I do think there may be something to gain, just the knowing. Nip this in the bud b/c it gets a whole lot harder!!!!! Good luck.

Get the cell phone # and call
your husbands cell phone and
see how he answers it, if she
is a friend you will know by
the way he talks to you, if it's lovey dovey you know what you are in for.

Call the number if he is saying it is a friends girlfriend number but she is calling his phone you should check it out she has no bussiness calling your partners phone for his friend!

I did call the OW, first traced the number and got info. Then confronted her. She panicked and started babbling, the truth?? I dont know. It hurt for her to say he said he was going through a divorce, etc... When we weren't, I got the phone bills, and watched. He was still chasing her even after me finding out. We are now seperated. Things are ugly, it really sucks. But, I'm glad I confronted her, I would never have known if I didnt hear him one morning in my room with the door shut. So I recommend calling, even though it will be things that you dont want to hear and it hurts. I needed to know.

I did this and found out my stbx had a gf after 2 weeks of separation put everything in perspective for me gave me the strength to move on