STBX made the decision to leave, and he moved out a month ago. He promised our daughters that he would see them everyday, and he has kept his word. (Sucks, because I have to see him too, so we're not getting much space between us). The first week or so he cried everytime he left, but eventually it got better. For the past few days, however, he has seemed very sad and depressed, and he has started crying again. I have offered to talk to him, but he asked me for space, which of course, I can give him. He won't talk to his family, and he seems to have only one friend (a woman) that he turns to for help. I hate asking about her, because in my eyes he had an emotional affair. He is adamant that I am putting too much emphasis on her (she is married and had gone through a separation, so she gave him advice). At the same time, if he can talk to at least one person, I am ok with that. Whatever her involvement, the marriage is over, I have to accept her as his confidant and move on. But should I be worried, or should I just let him deal with it, since he made the decision to leave? I do love him and at times feel like he's making a mistake, but I am not stopping my life over it. I hate seeing him cry and look helpless. I don't think he misses me at all, and I'm ok with that. But I know he misses the girls. Is there anything I should say or do to help him??
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