My husband of 10 years and I are seperated and in the process of divorce. Over the past 3 months he has left and come back 2ce. The first time was very dramatic (packing his bags in front of our 3 kids, tears, and begging to stay). The 2nd was supposed to be less dramatic..since we had discussed the separation civilly and decided it was best for him to leave, better himself, and see what time would do for the both of us. He was supposed to wait for me to return back from work so we could all say good-bye, but instead he left my kids with our neighbor..as well as leaving a suicide note for me on our computer, and left before I got home. He left to live out of state. After 4 days he decided that he couldnt be away from our kids and came back knowing we would work on a friendship but the marriage was over. Since then he has seeked help for his depression (medication) but has been on a rollercoaster of emotions with me. One minute he tells me how much he loves me, the next how much he hates me, the next how worthless I am. He wonders why I question his love. I told him "If you love me so much how can you say hurtfull and abusive things?". He said everyone says things they dont mean when they are angry. Regardless. Im nervous. Ive gotton 3 letters from him since this whole separation started. One stating how wonderful I am..the next how cold I am..and the other a combination. I cant take the emotional abuse one day and then the caring words the next. Its exhausting. Im concerned though because today he is being EXTREMELY nice. He bought groceries for the house (hes not living w/me)..treats for the kids..framed pictures of him with each of them with a note written on it saying "I love you...forever Daddy", made and left dinner for us..and has mentioned that he wants to spend time with all of us till Sunday. He says he has another letter he wants to give me that explains everything. I told him I was worried and it scares me. He said everything is fine and I have nothing to be scared about. Should I be scared? Or chalk this up to another day on the rollercoaster? Please help.
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