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Should I?

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My wife and I are, unfortunately, separated. She is not sure if she wants to be with me anymore and I am trying to give her the time to figure it out. I need to speak with her about the holidays and what we should do. We have two girls together, so we need to make a plan. I am unsure if calling her is the right move, for I am trying everything in my power to not push her away, but we do still need to speak. If I call her, will she feel pressured? Annoyed? I am in the Army and, therefore, further away, so I cant just stop by. I want to do the right thing, but what is the right thing? Any ideas?
deleted_user
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i think you should call, don't say anything about your relationship, just call and tell her you wanted to discuss the holidays and what arrangements need to be made. keep it about the children, that is not putting any pressure on her at all. hang in there. and by the way, God Bless You for serving our country, i'm grateful to you. my son is in iraq now for the 3rd time. remember keep it about the holidays and the kids.
deleted_user
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I say call her. You are right you both need a plan. One that is beneficial to your kids and both of you. Try to remain calm and receptive.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Could you ask her if she believes that the holiday time could be a shared experience for the sake of the children?
As in, all of you together.
Can you can use the distance to your advantage since you will both have time to communicate via email?
How comfortable do you feel giving her the option regarding sleeping arrangements?
How do you feel about positively asserting your desire to be with your children? Would it be possible for you to ask her how she would like to spend the holidays, but tell her how you would like to spend the holidays?
deleted_user
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Just call her and strictly discuss the holidays with the children. Don't bring up your relationship at all. Then she won't be on the defense.
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