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So as many of you know I've been in a battle for custody of my children.
Well today I have discovered that both children have chosen to live with their mother and back together. This is regardless of the OM and the abuse issues from her.
I have officially given up. The courts will back the mediators recommendation and I just don't have the money or the fight left in me to see this through.
Once again the STBX who has been nothing but self serving and selfish for our entire marriage got her way. She has her new life, her new (old) boyfriend, and she gets the kids.
I will even go as far as to grant her a final wish and I will disappear as much as possible. I'm moving away back to my hometown.
She gets it her way, just like she always did.
I wish I could tell you all that doing the right thing and fighting for what you believe in would eventually pay off. I believed it, until today.
Sadly...sometimes life just isn't fair. I have become the very thing I swore I would never become at the birth of my oldest....a weekend/disneyland dad.
Happy F'ing Halloween.
Well today I have discovered that both children have chosen to live with their mother and back together. This is regardless of the OM and the abuse issues from her.
I have officially given up. The courts will back the mediators recommendation and I just don't have the money or the fight left in me to see this through.
Once again the STBX who has been nothing but self serving and selfish for our entire marriage got her way. She has her new life, her new (old) boyfriend, and she gets the kids.
I will even go as far as to grant her a final wish and I will disappear as much as possible. I'm moving away back to my hometown.
She gets it her way, just like she always did.
I wish I could tell you all that doing the right thing and fighting for what you believe in would eventually pay off. I believed it, until today.
Sadly...sometimes life just isn't fair. I have become the very thing I swore I would never become at the birth of my oldest....a weekend/disneyland dad.
Happy F'ing Halloween.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I'm disappointed in the result to be sure. But i would be devastated if YOU didnt fight the fight all the way to the end. I admire you for that, and i'm sure everyone here seconds that motion.
Life ain't fair....now. I got a hunch your ex(and mine, fyi) just aint cut out for long term child care.
Pardon the cliche, but she might have won the battle. But the war endures until all the kids are 18.
Reach out if you need to, no joking I swear!!!
Your kids have what a lot of kids do not: a dad that loves them, wants them, and fought for them. They will see the whole truth of the situation as they get older.
A mother is a powerful thing, true, but it is wrong that the courts do not take moral turpitude into account when assigning custody. It is a bad influence. Your kids still need their dad.
Don't give her the victory over your mind. She's not worth it.
You are a good Dad. Know that.
Your kids know that too.
we all fall into stereotypes and patterns of behaviour... kids do too... ie... kids and Moms go together.
This is not always the best choice. But it is the current choice of your children and it is not always a good or accurate choice.
((((HUGS))))) NM.
Stay strong, know that your kids love you and that it is not an easy that they made.
Continue to be that great dad, do not disappear from their lives, they need you more now than anything.
...and Tup is correct...once they are 18.. things change...
so proud that you did the right thing to fight for them NM... it's not over.. You are still the Dad!.
Like it has been said your kids are lucky to have such a caring father who wants to be a part of their kids lives.
Never give up, the times you will spend with them will be precious, make the most of it.
I grew up with a dad that never told me he loved me. He didn't play with me, hold me or hug me. We had almost zero contact growing up. With my Son I tell him constantly how much I love him, that i miss him, that i'm proud of him. One day he will move in with me. We have planned that when he starts high school he is going to move in. Its now less than two years away and I can't wait.
Your day will come and the kids will be old enough to make a choice. Good Luck