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she is asking to do couples counseling now!

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Ok as I mentioned in my journal entries, my STBX's little fantasy romance has fallen apart, she lost her job, and she is starting to realize the error of her ways. She has been apologizing daily for what she has done and is asking if I would be interested in counseling or if it is too late for us? I just don't know right now. I mean I had wanted to try counseling from the start and even had it scheduled then she backed out saying it wasn't worth it. She said that the feelings she had for her OM were so wonderful and right that she could never settle for less again. I took that to mean I was less.
She caused me a lot of emotional pain as I have shared here in my journal entries. I can not just forget it all happened. I am so confused.
She caused me a lot of emotional pain as I have shared here in my journal entries. I can not just forget it all happened. I am so confused.
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There's also the fact that you now know she has a propensity to do this, and in your case, I think she was particularly callous in how she went about it. You're a better man than I if you can pull this back together...
At a min the counsellor can help you both realize how you both lost communication so that even if this relationship does not survive you can take these new skills and lessons and use them in your next relationship.
I have not directly experienced an affair ( but I highly suspect he is having one or had had many in the past) Infidelity is very difficult to over come but apparently it can be overcome if both parties are truly genuine about it. so You must think long and hard and see the pro's and the con's and think of your children ( if you have any) and do the correct thing for YOU.
But how can you honestly throw in the towel now... at a min you may get some closure.or maybe you guys will be the lucky ones who "make it" and become a better couple for not the infidelity but the couple counselling you both sought.
or...
Does she want to fix things with you because her other relationship didn't turn out the way she had hoped?
Two completely different scenarios.
I would go to counceling yourself before you make this disicion! Lots of prayer, too. God will revel if her heart is right or if this is a set up! KEEP watch!
Also, unless she has a total about face (which seems to have happened awefully quickly after her break up there) she is likely to do it again. Can you go through this later on down the road.
I know you will do the right thing. Ask the Lord for direction. I think you will know what is best for you and your children very soon.
Naturally, you are confused. A few sessions with a counselor would probably help you sort out your feelings right now. Sometimes when people are confronted with type of situation, they realize that , yes, at one time they did want to work things out but now they really don't. Nothing wrong with that. On the other hand, you might find that you can forgive her and want to fix things - that's good, also.
Just remember, YOU don't need to settle for less than what you deserve - a loving, faithful spouse whom you can trust. Good luck.
I do agree with Gemini and Flutterbye - do make sure that at the end of the day, you really WANT to be married to her again, and look hard at whether you're anything more than a safety net to her right now.
Ponyboy...you're put in a difficult position. Can you salvage it or not? For me....there is no going back with her....ever!
I wish you luck!!!
Who he really is and the lifestyle he really wanted finally won out. Divorce will be final - in 12 days.
The reason I shared that with you is because I believe once that trust is broken by a spouse - it is very difficult to get back. You may still love her dearly - but will you ever be able to trust and respect her as you once did?
Only you can answer that question. God will give you wisdom and discernment if you ask him!