So I just got off the phone with her. Learned alot. She didnt know about me til New Years day. She wanted to come see him but I was there so he had to finally tell her. She ended it with him but then a few months later called him and they are friends. She appologized like she meant it. He has been lying to her about stuff. She told me that the only time they were physical was that one night at the hotel. It didnt go all the way becuase he couldnt get it up. We talked for almost 3 hours. He has been saying horrible things about me. I am crazy and I dont leave him alone. I told her he is the one that wont stop texting me. Found out she has been talking to his mom also. Also paying part of his rent and giving him groceries. I told her that if he cant pay his rent or have money to eat then that was to bad. She shouldnt help him. He put himself in this situation. The things he complained about me are insane. Saying that I never want to go out and have fun. Havent I been asking to do that for years but he has been to busy working in another state. That he is all stressed about money. Told her I offered to go to work full time even get 2 jobs if he wanted me too and he could do whatever job he wanted or just rest for a while but he would have to take care of the kids. She wanted to know if she could pay back any of the money he spent on her. I told her no because he spent it not her. She filled me in on alot. She was clueless on alot too. Ofcourse he had to make me the bad one so she wouldnt feel bad. She said she felt horrible when she found out he was married. She said that she does love him but not in that way and didnt understand why he was saying that. She said that all his friends said he should have left me a long time ago. From what I can tell it is because of when I was sick. But you know i have been better for 3 yrs now. So much more I could write but I am tired. This was very tireing. She thanked me for being so civil to her and I said you didnt know he was married and at least you appologized. I also said why wouldnt I be. She said she expected me to be a mean crazy wife. Amazing how someone who loved you could be such a liar and talk so much shit about you to make himself look good. She said she wouldnt give him anymore money and if we ever worked things out she would walk away. She seemed genuine and it looks like from what I can tell it was mainly him. 3 hours on the phone with her.Everything is zooming in my head. I think this did help alot though. I realize what a asshole he is and I do believe there is nothing between then as she said it a few times and in a way I believe her. If she was lying she'll end it with him now. Trust me she was not happy about all the lying hes been doing to her either. Even on a friend level. havent heard from him though. She had to go to work. Bet he is as scared as can be!!!!
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