stbx and i have 50-50: i get the kids tuesday night through friday morning first week, tuesday night through sunday night second week. works well because each of us gets every other weekend with the kids, and we never go more than 5 days without seeing them.

I am currently doing it. My kids are 2 and 8. It works well for now since I live around the corner. I love my kids and miss them the week they are not around. I chose to live close by for my kids. Not sure how long this arangement will work but seems to be going well. It has been a little confusing for the little one but they seem to be doing well. Best of luck

I have given it some thought and I think sole purpose of 50-50 Custody is for the pleasure and comfort of the parents.

It must be rough on kids to be physically maintaining two homes and feeling obligated to move back and forth, to maintain a routine, to re-arrange their lives, their television viewing schedules, the downtime to travelling back and forth.
Okay.. well that is just my take on things.

I have 3 girls, ages 7, 9, 12 and thinking of their schedules and they do not have a lot of extra-curricular activities right now.. but when is there time to be a kid?.. time to go visit a friend after school?.. not have to think.. do I have everything I need for the next few days?..damn.. I forgot something at Mom's.. or Dad's..

I let my kids spend a lot of time with their dad. I have sole custody and do the mom thing M-F.. Dad sees them every day if he wants.. picks them up and goes to activities with them.. and gets them on the weekends most of the time.
Going back and forth never worked well, homework and school nights were difficult, studying for tests, practicing piano, violin.

Just my 2 cents..

Kids are pretty resilient. They sometimes seem to breeze through the moments that make us cry. Sometimes I want to just cry my heart out when talking to them on the phone but they always seem so happy when talking to me.

this is what we do the 50/50 thing. my kids hate it, well two out of three. they are 14, 11, 9. they dont feel like they have a home. they just get settled into a routine and then they have to "switch" homes. my daughter (14) gets so upset sometimes. she has to fill out registration forms for school trips and she doesnt even know what address to put down. when i took her to get her drivers permit she cried cuz she didnt know whos address to put down. she wanted to put mine down but was afraid cuz she knew her dad would get mad (and he did get mad).

i tell my kids they dont have just one home they have two. they have a different set of rules for each home.

they have one set of clothes for my house and one set for the dad's. one set of toys for each house. one set of everythin and i let them bring anything they want to the dad's, but they cant bring anything here to use.

would i advise the 50/50? my answer is no. just for the kids not knowing what address to use. them feeling like they dont have a home, even though they do. fo little kids it may be fine but not for older ones

just my thoughts

Just to add.. the forms etc.. the school notices.. the multiply telephone numbers.... I have kept hyphenating my last name so the kids have the stability of the last name at school.

Dad is very much involved in their daily activities, school events, concerts, school meetings and notices from the teacher. Two separate households just too much work and inconvienent for our kids.