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It must be rough on kids to be physically maintaining two homes and feeling obligated to move back and forth, to maintain a routine, to re-arrange their lives, their television viewing schedules, the downtime to travelling back and forth.
Okay.. well that is just my take on things.
I have 3 girls, ages 7, 9, 12 and thinking of their schedules and they do not have a lot of extra-curricular activities right now.. but when is there time to be a kid?.. time to go visit a friend after school?.. not have to think.. do I have everything I need for the next few days?..damn.. I forgot something at Mom's.. or Dad's..
I let my kids spend a lot of time with their dad. I have sole custody and do the mom thing M-F.. Dad sees them every day if he wants.. picks them up and goes to activities with them.. and gets them on the weekends most of the time.
Going back and forth never worked well, homework and school nights were difficult, studying for tests, practicing piano, violin.
Just my 2 cents..
i tell my kids they dont have just one home they have two. they have a different set of rules for each home.
they have one set of clothes for my house and one set for the dad's. one set of toys for each house. one set of everythin and i let them bring anything they want to the dad's, but they cant bring anything here to use.
would i advise the 50/50? my answer is no. just for the kids not knowing what address to use. them feeling like they dont have a home, even though they do. fo little kids it may be fine but not for older ones
just my thoughts
Dad is very much involved in their daily activities, school events, concerts, school meetings and notices from the teacher. Two separate households just too much work and inconvienent for our kids.