Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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I was just wondering how other people out there handle sharing children with sn ex when they have left you for another woman or man ( I was left for OW). My ex and I share every other week custody of our three year old son. The woman he left me for lives out of state. He's never truthful to me about his plans with our son or he's very vague with me when he needs my permission. Ex. my ex and his girlfriend are going to Disney with my son and two of her daughters. Why the third isn't going? I don't know. And, Yes, that bothers me. When he told me he was taking a trip he didn't tell me where or with who. I had to press him for the information. So, I was wondering is this normal? And how do you deal with the fact that another person is around your child. Yes, the other parent knows them and is there taking care of them but, I don't know her from Adam. I've never seen her. All I know is her first name and that she is the mother of three children, she's a pharmaceutical rep and she lives somewhere in Indiana. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated. My son is leaving next week and I'm trying to deal with this.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
These types of things can range from no overnight visits of g/f's, b/f's when that parent has custody. No trips out of state or across state lines with the child UNLESS consent is given in writing and notarized by the other parent and trip details and itinerary (where they are going, day and time they will be visiting each and ever site, where they are staying, numbers to call to contact them, date and time they will be back). I have even seen agreements that state if mom/dad has a date during their custody week, THEY must contact the other parent to give them the option of babysitting their child, BEFORE they can contact anyone else for babysitting.
If you need to, you can suggest that PRIOR to your child meeting mom/dad's b-f/g-f, that YOU be allowed to meet them. I have seen this done in many custody agreements. This also can be helpful for the child. Both parents have met the OP and BOTH parents can help introduce the OP into the childs life. It can be helpful when both parents work together on this. Its easier when mom/dad says "yeah, this is mom's/dad's new friend __________, and he/she are really nice, they are going to be spending time with mom/dad, so you will see them too."
Not sure if any of that helps, but they are some suggestions of things that can be done if the custody agreement has not been finalized.