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sex with the ex?

deleted_user
deleted_user
Please share opinions about continuing to have a solely sexual relationship (safe sex) with the ex.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am trying really hard to avoid that even though we are very sexually compatible and so far, so good. I would not be able to separate sex from the emotional connection and then i would be right back where i was. I don't think this is a good idea, at least for me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
U are going to get hurt, I thought it would work with my STBX and it actually was alsome the first couple of times because we could be truely honest about what we expected. As she started looking for other partners. It changed for both, didn't feel right anymore. This is what I have experienced, not sure it right but I won't do it anymore.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't have to worry about that. It's a long way from CO to TX and she can have her OM now. I know where she had been for the last 20+ years, but have no idea where he had been. Overall I don't think it is a good idea. How do you turn off the emotions that you had for them. Would be to difficult for me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know that you are all right that I should avoid this but I guess this lonely weekend has got me thinking about this one good part of the relationship.
deleted_user
deleted_user
SEX WITH MY EX? NO WAY JOSE!
I'd rather be celivate for the rest of my days! Abstinence sucks, but I'd rather have sex with a perfect stranger than with this man.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I too am trying to avoid that can't seperate sex from my emotions. It would be like one step forward, two steps behind.
Che2
Che2
Never happened here. Never will.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Way to many pitfalls and strings for most most peoples situations I would think. I can't see playing "buds with bennies" with an ex. All the attached emotional baggage just waiting to spill all over the floor after the last Oooooooooooo.......fades. Just a thought. CD
deleted_user
deleted_user
Couldn't do it. Way too much emotion in there. If I had an emotions switch to turn off I still don't think I could do it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
She wants to... I don't have interest in her anymore. Want Sex, just not with her!
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's like a fast-food dinner - filling, but not satisfying - complete with regrets in the morning...
deleted_user
deleted_user
I could never have sex with the x without any emotions involved. I loved him too long and there is too much history.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think of my stbx as a comparison to America (me) and the United Kingdom (her).
The British may have a wonderful history filled with all sorts of notable events but the Americans are the ones with the future!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have trouble even looking at him without seeing the OW hovering in the background.

Sex with him.EeeeeeeeeeeeWwwwwwwwwwwww!
JoeTex
JoeTex
I did the deed once after we separted and feel that it was a bad choice. That will never happen again. I get emotional and she asks how much my lawyer is charging
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