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deleted_user
deleted_user
One of the reasons my ex is wanting a divorce is that he thinks the sex is unsastifing. I feel like we have had it good, if not normal in those areas, but he is really into porn and has always wanted me to be like the girls in the videos. THat's just not me! I thought things were good enough but he said there wasn't enough passion. He was always just ready to go, and never did those little things I needed to get me in the mood. Some of the time I wasn't even sastified with the experence but he wanted it to be a porn show. He even tried to get some with our kids 8,5, and 2 sleeping in the same room with us on a trip once. He was upset because I wouldn't go there...Is that normal or my I off? Would you say that is a sign Of a addiction for him, maybe that's why he cheated?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Its a sign of selfishness if you ask me
Garrison
Garrison
I agree with lovesucks.

Also, sex is actually an area that can be fixed if both parties commit to it.

Other than that, it is an excuse. A weak one for a divorce, if that is the only reason.
solongbye
solongbye
He complains about your sex life yet he never did the things to get you in the mood? Yep he's selfish. He also wants an excuse to explain his cheating. Just look at it this way..feel sorry for his next lover, he'll always be selfish.
patti22
patti22
NEVER WITH THE KIDS SLEEPING IN THE SAME ROOM
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sex to me is special...it should be romantic and loving and hot and passionate..but it take TWO to make it that way. As for kids in the room...um NO!
deleted_user
deleted_user
My stbx used to approach me for sex often when our son was sleeping in the same room (usually while on vacation). He did this almost until we separated and our son was 15 (I kid you not). I found this to be particularly disturbing. Never did figure out if he was a glutton for rejection or he had some sick fantasies. It was a real turnoff.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It seems to me thats sex was more important than love to him.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Not only is it selfish, but maybe he is addicted to porn, and ewwwww with the kids in the room???? Something's not right there...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes,, he has a problem.. porn is not reality...never will be.... those porn stars dont' work all day, get sick, have fat days..... not reality dude... get a life...
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am just so grateful to everyone that has posted! I was beginning to think may there was something wrong with me and that's why he did what he did.. He always made it such an issue, and made me feel like I wasn't right to begin with. Thanks so much everyone!
Dun4now
Dun4now
Selfish ba@*# ard gives guys a bad name. I was turned on more when she was , make her want it even more, that is the secret.make sure she gets there first!!!!! I don't mind coming in second.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Selfish and porn addicteed si where I weigh in. I am so sorry -- been here.
deleted_user
deleted_user
love the avatar, btw, had to look at it closely to see what the likeness was, it's a great shot!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Evidentally, sex makes the marriage nowadays. You don't give enough, you are worthless. It's disgusting, really.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Not sex, but the "sex is everything" menatality is...


Just wanted to clarify.
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