Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Well, today we say with the lawyers and did our seperation agreement. A fifteen year relationship gets ended in 1 hour. She couldn't wait to start the official date of seperation- form our agreed to Jan 1, to Dec. 15 (but when I remindded her that she wouldn't be out of the house on that day and it was our son's first b-ball game-she relented.) SO now it is Dec. 22, the day before she takes the kids to PA for Christmas and I stay home with the dog.
She was all smiles and got a big hug from her attorney, whom I doubt was never told about the lying, cheating and affairs. Then she hugged me and asked me if I was ok.
SHe cant wait to just get on with her new life and toss the last fifteen years over her shoulder.
I can barely function and she's all happy and smiles. Of course, she's not feeling the pain of a partner who has been betrayed and cheated on, nor is she terrified about what to do with two kids, nor is she seing her plans all dashed on the rocks. SHe just sees a rose-colored future where everyone adores her and she gets to be with the old boyfriend (once he leaves his wife course,) and they just paint and screw all day.
W
She was all smiles and got a big hug from her attorney, whom I doubt was never told about the lying, cheating and affairs. Then she hugged me and asked me if I was ok.
SHe cant wait to just get on with her new life and toss the last fifteen years over her shoulder.
I can barely function and she's all happy and smiles. Of course, she's not feeling the pain of a partner who has been betrayed and cheated on, nor is she terrified about what to do with two kids, nor is she seing her plans all dashed on the rocks. SHe just sees a rose-colored future where everyone adores her and she gets to be with the old boyfriend (once he leaves his wife course,) and they just paint and screw all day.
W
-
I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
-
theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
Yes, the cheaters continue to hurt us, move on quickly to their new lives and leave us behind.. shattered.
26.5 years here.. just over..a blip on the radar of life.
(((HUGS)))
Now lets look at you. A trustworthy, loyal, devoted man with his priorities straight. Yea all us divorcees are not perfect. If you work on yourself and deal with the pain. You will be wiser and more stable. You have great looks so when you are ready. You have a lot to offer. You'll be even more committed than before because you won't take a relationship for granted like all of us do. I say you future is much brighter than hers.
Now the tough part is walking through the pain and telling your heart to believe what your intellect is telling you. Hang in there you are deserving of a greater love. ((((Hugs)))
If only it were that easy.
I don't wish this on anyone. Thank you all for your support.