I'm currently separated. I moved out of our home months ago hoping to repair the marriage, hoping the time apart would allow my husband and I to work through some issues. We're in counseling and still love each other however we've come to realize (in recent conversations) that things might not change and living together might not happen again. The separation (living apart) seems to work for us however trying to maintain 2 households is taking it's toll on him financially which is what led to the discussion of divorce which didn't go very well. If we sell the house, he's assuming divorce. I'm not sure what to do? The important thing to know about our situation (and what led to the separation) is that my husband suffers from depression and I didn't know how to handle/deal with it anymore while living together. I took his depression "personal" even though his depression stems from his own individual unhappiness. Me, not knowing how to deal with it and responding negatively to him, really affected us both and our kids because we fought all the time toward the end. Anyway, here I am, happy thinking we're getting along much better now, we're seeing each other regularly, having deep-rooted conversations BUT the truth is, some of our behaviors have not changed. The depression is still there and he refuses to medicate and I am still set in my ways and have some issues of my own to be dealt with. I love my husband very much and want to make it work however I'm not sure that I'm being realistic. He and I are just too different. Do we need to accept that we're never going to change who we are? Am I holding on to a relationship that wont work for fear of being alone?
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