Actually for me it's not so bad because we haven't lived together in two years. He is a livein caregiver and has only one day a week off. Most of the time we still get along. I am sure if we were in the same house I would probably be in jail for murder.

"Is there anyone else out there doing this?"

Yes, we are separated in the same house, for the most part.

"Are there points in your life that are going well, even though there's a divorce going on?"

My lungs seem to still be functioning. I think that's a good sign. :)


We just can't afford two separate places right now and neither of us has family or friends that live nearby. I tend to drive to my best friend's place on the weekends which is a couple hours away. I try to get out and do things with him and his wife (out to eat, movies, parks, whatever). Have actually spent a lot of nights in a motel over the last two weeks so that my stbx's parents could visit. For some strange reason they hate me now. Hmmm... I wonder why. It must be all the nice truths about me that my stbx has told them lately. :)

We did the living together but trying to separate for 6 months. His and her bedrooms. Avoided each other as much as possible. It was horrible. Things are going very well now, 3 months after I finally moved out. It took actually moving out to begin the healing process for me. Couldn't do it while living in the same house. Too much tension.

It's kind of strange, because although still miserable.....I think it's easier to live in the same house then being alone. I love when he leaves and spends the night away on fishing trips..........I love it when he is not home. We have lived separate lives for a long time now. Then right before I kicked him out, I put the kids to bed and stayed with friends. I would leave at 5 in the morn to return home. When the reality of the divorce hit me..........It was the most horrible feeling. When I face that again, I don't know how long til I have good moments. It's hard

We did that for about 6 months, and it was pretty bad at times. It was just impossible for me to even start to heal, living with him. We didn't have a spare bedroom either, so we were still sleeping in the same bed.

We finally moved into our own places a month ago, and now I'm trying to get used to living alone again. At least if I don't want to see him, I don't have to. Although I do still miss him a lot. Hopefully that will eventually pass...

I'm going to be doing this while I finish school as moving out isn't financially possible for me right now. Ugh. All I can say is UGH!!!! He feels so guilty for treating me like such shit,he seems willinng to do whatever it takes to make this "transition" work...but I truly wish I had options. I think this will be the toughest time of my life

I'm doing it right now. It's hard when we have to be around each other. We're doing it for financial reasons - trying to sell the house and then hopefully we can get some separation. I agree with whoever here said they like it when their STBX is gone. My wife was gone last Thursday through Sunday and it was such a relief!