Breakups & Divorce Support Group

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keepthehope
keepthehope
This is for all of us who have had our world drasitically changed due to break down in our marriage. We put our love into one person where we do lose ourselves. We give our hearts and souls in hopes that they will be cherished, protected and valued. We love unconditionally. We hold it to the highest meaning as life itself. When the other half fails to live up to the same standards and beliefs as we do, we are left standing feeling lost, scared, confused with no sense of direction and belonging. We struggle to understand what happened to our life our marriage. We seek peace in either trying to reconcile or trying to cope and move on. The hurt stays with us as reminder of what we all had. We try to get our bearings striaght we look to the stars at night, we look to the endless blue sky and yet feel lost. Always being told that time will determine when we are ready to move on and let go. I ask all of you that hurt take a moment and realize that you are not alone as you feel. Your pain is felt by all that seek comfort, understanding and peace in our heart and soul. For all of you I give you a big (((hug)))
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Thank you so much for your post...your words echoed the very pain in my own heart. It helps to know I'm not alone.
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Thanks that is how I feel. It does help to know others understand and feel the same as I do. I do hope it gets better.
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Thank you, it does help to know that we are not alone.
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Did you see into my heart? Because thats how I feel. Thank you!
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I broke down crying as I read your words, this is exactly how I feel, it is comforting to know I am not alone.
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thats exactly how i feel. its hard to accept or understand why he wont reciprocate the love ive given him. you cant expect sick people to make healthy choices. its hard to accept that all signs point to the fact that he does not love me anymore- that he is incapable of loving anyone because he doesnt love himself. i hate not knowing where my life is headed. i hate the uncertainty. but im glad im not alone in my pain.
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Don't lose hope.There is a song from the musical rent called ,"Seasons of Love" and to paraphrase-525,600 minutes how do you measure a year. In daylights, in sunsets, in midnights, in cups of coffee;in inches in miles in laughter in strife? Measure in Love.
Even though things seem dark now,there are many different kinds of love and one of those is the support you can get from friends right here!
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And here is a very big hug right back at you my friend! {{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}
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wow... thank you I need that so much.
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I guess we let go when the fear/pain of what we know is greater than the unknown. I have struggled recently with questions like what do I like to do? Where do I want to be? I used to know but those things. That's sad that the struggle has made me forget and I wonder sometimes if I will ever remember.
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Hurting tonight... Needed to read that. Hug back.
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I feel that if I let go then it is all over, that for some reason if I hold on to hope then I can hold on to it forever, even though I know that it is a lost cause. I am afraid that one day I will wake up and know that there is no turning back for us and then I will fall in to a big hole and never be able to get out of it. I am afraid to let go of the man that I knew before last year, the man who could do no wrong, what if he returns? what if I treat him badly and he was ready to come home? Those are my fears, if I stop communicating, he will forget me, that makes me scared!
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