Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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My STBX and I have both agreed to stay in the same town that we currently live in so the kids are in the same school and they can be with both of us as much as possible (hopefully a bike ride away). I am currently living in the marital home with our children until our settlement is determined. We are trying to figure out -- who gets the house, if either of us. The equity in the house is pretty much preventing either of us from buying the other one out. Housing prices went sky high in our area since we bought nearly 20 years ago! So the question is -- if we sell the house, how will the kids feel if we buy two new homes in the same town as the house they grew up in? Will it do more damage to their already tender hearts to know someone else is living in their home or should one of us try to stay in the home as long as possible? This is so hard because we both love our home dearly as do the kids -- it has become almost like another family member.
I know that there is another option of co-owning the home and selling at a later date. But financial experts do not encourage that as it makes you tied to your ex for a long time. Any thoughts?
I know that there is another option of co-owning the home and selling at a later date. But financial experts do not encourage that as it makes you tied to your ex for a long time. Any thoughts?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Trying to hold on to the past for them will not help.
A new house for you is a fresh start.
And stressful and crazy making and all of that.
But, it sounds like since neither one of you can buy the other out, it's time to let it go.
Good luck.
It's tough decision but I stayed and will buy him out when my girl turns 18.
I decided that losing there Dad and the house they've both grown up with was too much. I know how lucky I am to have that luxury, but I feel good about it.
The first year was hell being here with all the memories, I strongly considered getting out of here, but I"m so glad I didn't. i think it was the right decision for my kids.
Since everyone loves the home, is this possible for you?
If my husband and I do not work things out, I will eventually refinance and buy him out...we have only lived here for four years, so there isn't too much equity (especially now that the values of homes are dropping).
Next Tuesday they will lower Interest rates again. Maybe a refinance on exsisting home would be the way to go.
I would not co own anything with my ex.