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My husband is being seduced emotionally by a woman 250 miles away. She calls him with her hopes, fears, and dreams of their future. She claims to be a Christian and goes to church. Yet, she is pulling him from me so hard, late night calls, early morning calls, and even mid day calls. I love my husband and he loves me.
But he wants a divorce because he does not love me the way he used too. But he has made it clear that once he gets a divorce he is going after her & only her! What can I do to win him back? He is a good person, he is being seduced. My powers of seduction even though I am in the same house, do not seem to be as strong as hers!!!!
But he wants a divorce because he does not love me the way he used too. But he has made it clear that once he gets a divorce he is going after her & only her! What can I do to win him back? He is a good person, he is being seduced. My powers of seduction even though I am in the same house, do not seem to be as strong as hers!!!!
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Eventually, the bottom will probably fall out of this relationship for him, or the thrill will go out of it as the every-day hum-drum sets in, and he begins to realize that the problems in that relationship are remarkly similar to the ones he had with you. Maybe he'll be back then, scratching at your door. It happens often enough to women on here. At that point, it's up to you.
I'm sorry for your pain. Focus on the things you CAN control right now. Take care of yourself. Protect your interests.
In my experience, once a wanderer always a wanderer.
There is really nothing you can do to 'win' him back. The more you try,the harder he will run. Just work on yourself, be independent, not at all clingy. Tell him your feelings in a direct and honest way and leave it at that.
I personally believe that a person can't be seduced by another unless they were already unhappy to begin with. I wouldn't think of this as a tug of war between you and her. He's going to do what he's going to do and really there is not a whole lot you can do about it. You can be kind to him, show him you are not afraid to be alone if it comes to that, tell him you love him and want to work on the marriage with him (as long as he gives up the OW) but that he needs to realize that once he leaves, you may not take him back later if he decides that the OW isn't everything he hoped for. Maybe that will make him think twice. I think that sometimes when people are leaving for another person, they secretly like the fact that their spouse is clinging because they think there is a backup plan if things don't work out with the new person. Even if you think you would take him back, don't let him know that. Make him think there are real consequences to the choices he is making. Good luck.