I'm currently going through a separation/divorce. I have been with my spouse for almost 7 years now and married for 2 1/2 of those years. Everything was fine until a year or so ago when all the stress of my work and her work and our lifes as far as family from each side goes and the stress took a toll on both of us. After trying to work on it for awhile on my on I finally just couldn't do it anymore the feelings I had once prior were gone and I felt more like roomates than anything else. I actually did the big sit down talk last week which ended up as usual in a big argument and her moving out. She wanted everything done fast so we are already in the divorce stage and only thing left to reconsile is a few debts we have together. She always calls me now and the conversation starts out okay but ends with her telling me how I was evil and bad and all and that I destroyed her life etc. I feel really guilty for this and just am trying to be cool about everything and have agreed to all her wants out of this. I'm doing ok on a daily basis but everytime we have one of these conversations I feel like crap when it's done and start having second thoughts if I"m doing the right thing. The bad part is I can't make her understand that my feelings changed due to everything that happened between us and that it wasn't her in general that I just cant be at this point in my life at this time. I just don't want to decide to try and reconsile and end up back in this position in a year or more or less just because I feel guilty. She moved out for one day prior and I let her come back and it didn't work that time either. I've pretty much just told myself I have to be strong and stick to my guns and my gutt feelings without the guilt being a factor on things. Any advice on how to deal with this would be great.
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