I just had a fight with my second husband ,my first was an alcoholic and abusive ,my second who I have now been with for 8 years had a history of drug abuse but has stayed off heavy drugs the whole time we have been together.We have been happy until the last few months things are falling apart and I am wishing he would just go away ...He is not abusive but we are fighting a lot .mostly over the kids ..he thinks I am too soft ,I think he over reacts .I do not understand what his problem is and he will not talk to me ...I mentioned my first marriage because it is often on my mind lately ,my DH is acting a lot like my ex did and I am reacting ...I know I am afraid of things escalating and I am comparing him way to much to my ex ...And I know that is not fair but how do you disconnect from the past when it seems to be repeating its self ...In a way I know I made a bad mistake in picking another man with addiction problems but at the time I thought it did not matter so long as he stayed clean ,now I am seeing that he folds under stress way too easily just like any other drug addict ...I want to either sort out his problem and get along again or end it ,I am not willing to live with this kind of tention ..Am I giving up too easy because I am afraid or is it reasonable to not want to fight ...
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