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second chance or no??

lkc9528
lkc9528
I have been cheated on with someone I love very much. He wants a second chance and honestly I dont know how this works. Is it worth the worry and insecurity that is sure to follow? Is it worth always wondering and no trust. Is it so easy to be lonely then just take him back then be sorry later? Or worse yet not give the second chance and lose someone who means a lot to me? Anyone been through this who can shed some light?
deleted_user
deleted_user
My stbx cheated on me 4 times and I took him back every time because I loved him. Finally his fifth one he fell in love with so I guess I really have no advice but I am a true believer that once they do it they will again
deleted_user
deleted_user
i have given a second chance and would do it again. everyone can make a mistake. keep communication open to find out why it happened....but DON'T ask about details, that will destroy you and you will not forget! i believe in forgiveness if he is truly sorry.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Cheating is often often blamed on a recurring situation in the relationship. If there is a problem that keeps coming up that the two of you can't resolve that will be the excuse to cheat.
If you feel that taking your husband back is something you want to do, I think you should. Please realize that if the issue that caused the cheating isn't resolved the cheating will continue.
I don't think the worry and insecurity is worth it. There is alot of mental damage that can happen if you continue to stay in this relationship. I recommend moving on and after some time passes and you both experience some diffrent situations and people he may appreciate you and a new better relationship with him may start.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was not cheated on. That is not why he left. I do believe he has someone now and we are not divorced yet so that is I guess cheating. I believe everyone deserves a second chance but you have to be able to give it. I am sure it will be hard, but you are the only one that can make that choice. Good luck to you.
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