My life turned upside down two weeks ago. I discovered my husband was cheating. He is a recovering alcoholic and has had a transplant so his medical condition is not good. I never expected cheating - even though this is a sexless marriage. I saved his life on many occassions and never thought this was my payment for supporting him physically (he barely works) and medically (beyond the extensive illness and hospitalization and recovery and his drugs are ridiculously costly). I do entirely all of the work in this marriage: grass cutting, shoveling, bill paying, house care).He attends (or so he says) AA and narcotics group meetings at least 2 evenings a week and attends community college the other 3 nights of the week. After I accidentally discovered the infidelity, I then started snooping. In addition to the growing list of lies, I keep finding objects in my house that prove to me he is a street person, despite years of (to my knowledge) not drinking. I have seen an attorney and a PI already. I was planning on waiting to leave and file for separation when my ducks are in a row, but I think he is aware that I am aware and I am getting frightened. How do I leave sooner and not lose all of my meager assets?
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