I think that this can be a fairly common control tactic, but if you are truly worried, you may want to contact a professional for advice.

Good luck.

I was just talking with my therapist about this today. My stbx has been throwing out suicide remarks to me for the past few days. He did it before when he first told me about OW.

The first time around I was concerned.

Now, it just ticks me off. He's just using those lines to get a rise out of me. He wants me to feel bad for HIM!?

If he were in bad shape, his therapist would see it and help him.

Not my job anymore.

I have been through that and I believe it was just my husband trying to make me feel sorry for him and make me feel like this is all my fault.

I know a guy who shot himself after his wife left him.
I cant imagine someone doing that but he killed himself.
I dont know what advice to give you.
This guy seemed like he was dealing with it. He was a social worker and helped many in this situation. It took everyone by suprize. He did not threaten suicide to anyone as far as I know.

usually as another friend of mine pointed out, talk about this is only for attention. however, if you are truily concerned and isn't your problem anymore, you should probably notify family members of his, or make mention to someone he trusts, like his buddy, etc.

i would be concerned. of course you still care. you don't have to say you love your ex, but certainly you do not want your ex to die. you never know what people are capable of during times like this. be careful and seek help if needed.

In many cases it is emotional manipulation -- particularly if he was emotionally abusive to you before. And it is NOT your concern any longer. If he does himself in, that is his choice.

If there were something in his demeanor that truly concerned you about his well being -- just as you might be concerned about a neighbor's well being if they were in obvious jeopardy -- you could always call the local police and express your fears to them, and the reasons why you think it is serious. Then you have discharged your duty as a caring human being. The rest is with whatever you think of as a higher power.

When my wife first came out of the closet and told me that she had realized that she was a lesbian. I really didn't take it well. The first night I was by myself I got really depressed, drank heavily, and, gave it serious consideration. The thing that stoped me, was that I'm an NRA member, and I refuse to give the gun grabing liberals another statistic, to use in their quest to ban private gun ownership. I know it's sad, that that's the only thing that stoped me from pulling the trigger, but I'm still here right.

A lot of woman say that but are not suicidal. Some are and if it gets bad you need to noitfy the police for their own protection.

My stbx has done the same thing on two occasions. I knew that he was a manipulator, but I didn't want to ignore it "just in case" he was serious, so I called his dad and told him the situation.

He isn't your responsibility anymore. Notify a friend or family member and THEY can address it with him!

I think it is manipulation. A way of control. My STBX called 10 times on saturday in tears. I stopped answering his calls so his messages were tleling me "how could I leave him hanging... how could I be so cruel?" Its not suicidal, but it ruined my nite. And It made me worry more about him than my plans... I think thats what he wanted. He always made me feel like it was my fault he treated me badly.... Glad to know I am not the only one this happens to

Wish mine would.

Oooooo, did I really say that out loud?

I posted almost the exact same thing a few months back.

Per the doctors: This is their choice, to say it and , if they follow thur to DO it. WE are not in charge of this in ANY way. You get to a point, I know I did, when you let go enough to realize that you can't control this, that he must seek help or if he is using it to control your feeling, get over doing this to you. when my stbx kept saying it, I firmly told him I was call 911 - sometimes that is all we can do. letting go hurts, but in time it gets better. I know it is for me. sure will pray for you that he stops doing this. take care, ok?

could be controlling, but the night mine told me he was going to shoot himself, i fixed the SOB, i called 911 and sent them to the address he was at, boy was he pissed. i told him, don't call me and tell me that and expect me to do nothing about it. the cops were there and tackled him, well, hey we thought he had a gun. he was drunk.