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Said in passing by my x's attorney...

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X has only exercised visitation ONE time in the 8 months that we've been separated and divorced though I've done my best to encourage (and beg at times) for him to show more interest in our children and visit MORE. At that time he violated the court order barring his gf from being around the kids (she's an addict who only has supervised visitation with her own two young boys). In court last Monday his attorney said that our two children should be appointed a guardian. WTH!!!! I have taken care of them since the day they were born. Made nearly all decisions concerning their life because my x couldn't be bothered with them...I've helped them deal with their dad's abandonment the very best that I can and now x is wanting them to have a GUARDIAN that isn't me!!! Under the circumstances can this happen??? Or is he just trying to break me down? I really, really dislike his attorney IMMENSELY!
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From what you've said it sounds to me like an attempt to break you!
Stay Strong for your kids...your all they've got!
((((((hugs))))))
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It would take a lot. I think they're trying to rattle you. They'd have to prove you unfit in some way or guilty of neglect/abuse/etc.
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it's a tactic to take t he spotlight off t he girlfriend and nothing more than that. If she can't visit her own children without supervision, she has no business being around anyone elses!

I'd say the ball is in your court and they know it!
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Wow, you know if I were a divorce attorney I would check out a situation before agreeing to doing whatever the client wanted. That's got to make the attorney look bad in front of the judge. What did your attorney say? What a waste of taxpayer's money. People like your stbx using the courts to get revenge on their spouses.

I don't know under what circumstances this can happen but I would be willing to bet he needs to come up with some evidence showing you may be an unfit parent. Given the fact that he's only seen them once in 8 months, I doubt anyone will believe him. This sounds like the work of an evil OW. She can't have her kids so she wants yours, maybe?
patti22
patti22
If I've got your profile right, you're an elementary librarian raising teen-age girls? The judge will laugh if he can.
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I figured that it was just an attempt to upset me. I didn't even think about him saying that until today...there are so many issues in our divorce. My attorney didn't even respond since it was just said in passing...x's attorney didn't file a motion about it or anything. LOL...funny thing is that one thing on the motion (and it's still being investigated) is that my bf cannot be around the kids...totally a revenge thing. I acutally have a son and a daughter...son will be 13 in a few weeks and daughter is 14. I don't think it's about his gf trying to get my kids since she can't have her own(she's actually pregnant with my x's baby)...it's just that they'll do anything they can to hurt me because I'm not just rolling over and letting ex have anything he wants. It's KILLING him that we have to divide the marital assets...and he's made up all these "loans" from his relatives...without proof. X's attorney is well-known for trying to get the other party to "give in" to his clients demands...by dragging things out...by scaring the opposing. Then he sits in the front row in church, cheats on his own wife, and basically has the morals of something really horrible. I really don't see how he can live with himself.

I will stay strong :)
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