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This weekend I got the legal response about my husbands demands for our divorce. Split everything down the middle. No maintenance. All he wants to do is Keep me in this state which is 600 miles from any of my family. Pay only child support and have liberal visitation on his terms.
Me I have no job. I've been caring for his special needs kids for 3 yrs. I need to spend some time studying to reenter the job market. There is no consideration how I am suppose to study and care for the kids when he has no interest in them hence little visitation time when I can study. He never keeps them more than 3 hrs 1-2 times a week. I bearly get the grocery shopping done (my kids have special diets). Last month he only saw them 22.5 hours. The month prior only 11 hrs (then his lawyer kicked him in the butt.) Now my son is facing a work up for a partial obstruction of the intestine 1 inch below the stomach.(inflammation vs tumor) I have been to doctors 12 times just for my son in Oct and November. December will not be much better.
I'm overwhelmed.
All he wants is his money his pension and his new life. He's so selfish.
Me I have no job. I've been caring for his special needs kids for 3 yrs. I need to spend some time studying to reenter the job market. There is no consideration how I am suppose to study and care for the kids when he has no interest in them hence little visitation time when I can study. He never keeps them more than 3 hrs 1-2 times a week. I bearly get the grocery shopping done (my kids have special diets). Last month he only saw them 22.5 hours. The month prior only 11 hrs (then his lawyer kicked him in the butt.) Now my son is facing a work up for a partial obstruction of the intestine 1 inch below the stomach.(inflammation vs tumor) I have been to doctors 12 times just for my son in Oct and November. December will not be much better.
I'm overwhelmed.
All he wants is his money his pension and his new life. He's so selfish.
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i'm sorry! so very sorry you are feeling this way...i don't understand how they cand be so blind to everything going on around him. BUT remember, you are there to take care of the kids and no one can do as good a job as you...even you feel that way i'm sure. one day at a time...ask friends for help.
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Well, he certainly sounds selfish. If they are his kids, you would think possibly you can get an attorney who would figure in the value in dollars of the extra care you have to provide for these children. I have heard of this before. Many women with special needs kids are unable to work.
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split everything down the middle his ass, nail him to the wall. get as much money as you can, your going to need to be available for you children and you might need some help to. and get doctors letters too. and keep documentation about visits, phone calls, let them see just how much daddy cares about his kids. or perhaps he would like to make no waves and let you move closer to your family. i'd go for both, he is a selfish ass. unless he is working hard and giving you everything because of your situation but some how i doubt that.
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He should pay support and maintenance - without question. And let you stay near family to receive the help he is unwilling to give. It sounds he is divorcing financial responsibility and fear of monetary loss, rather than you.
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